Hi, I am looking for some advice. My son is 14 and I recently contacted his school about what I believe is his dyslexia. Loads of 'red flags' over the years; late speech and stammer, very poor handwriting and spelling but also a really talented chess player and Lego whiz. I worked with him out of school over the years which has frankly been exhausting, but I assumed that this was normal. He passed his SATS almost achieving all level 5s. Was looking at his books at the beginning of term and his writing is still dreadful, random spelling and punctuation etc. He is also extremely disorganised (lost 8 zip cards in first year at secondary school...). Although not tested, I believe dyslexia runs in my husbands family.
The school aren't interested as he is not falling behind - in fact he is in top group for maths and keeping up. However, he comes home from school exhausted, and I don't see how, with his current level of writing, he will pass his GCSEs. The school shared his MidYis (CAT) score with me (I knew nothing about this and wasn't aware he had even taken it at the beginning of Y7 with the rest of his year). He scored 126 which places him in the top 4% for ability. He is definitely not achieving at this level.
A family member is a SEN assessor and at my request tested him for dyslexia earlier this year. He came out in the lowest 4% for working memory. I was horrified (not fully understanding what this really meant) and if I am honest, threw the report in a draw and tried to ignore it.
I have now shared the dyslexia report with the school and I am arranging to have a full Educational Psychologists report. The school are still not interested.
Is it normal to have a high IQ (or potential ability score) with such a low working memory? There seems to be little information available about this on the web. I am really hoping some lovely Mumsnetters will share their experiences/ideas with me, as to be honest, just feeling so anxious for my son...