DS is 13 but has the maturity of a much younger child. He was diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD and is on Ritalin which helps immensely.
The problem we are currently facing is this: every lesson at school, he strolls in about 10 mins late, with no books or stationery, usually in the wrong uniform (eg still in gym kit after sport) and sits there eating snacks. He knows all these things are wrong.
This flakiness is making him a target: the other boys call him ‘autistic’ and ‘vegetable’ and make odd sounds at him and throw things at him.
Naturally this is very distressing for DS and the school do punish the other boys, but they are convinced that it’s DS who is bringing it on himself by standing out with his behaviour. His locker is a mess, he never bothers to lock it and his belongings are strewn across the locker room. He is doing OK academically but has no friends.
How can we help him to fit in and be like the other boys, at least in terms of following the school rules, being on time, etc? Any advice would be gratefully received. Thanks.