Violent behaviour increased

[whatdoidowithmyson]

DS is 6. No diagnosis... possibly there's something going on but I don't know.

Violent behaviour is increasing. My home has dents from kicking, I have bruises, this morning he ran at me with a wooden folding chair.

There is possible bullying at school but whether he's part of the crowd or actually being bullied himself I'm struggling to get to the bottom of. Both sound plausible.

What do I do about it?

He's not spoilt but is acting like it. He almost seems calculating and manipulative lately

I can't carry on with this getting worse

Other than reasons why this is happening... how do I stop it?

He loses screen time
He gets time out
He gets told firmly
He has been smacked in the past (that definitely does not work, was just at my wits end on an occasion a long time ago)
He gets rewarded for good behaviour
Anything he uses to hit with goes in the bin
Anything he breaks goes in the bin

There's stuff I haven't even written in this post. I've self referred to therapy for him, I've had no luck getting CAMHS to see him.

I feel like I've tried everything, I'm consistent I keep trying...

And my DS is getting worse

Our DS 7 yrs struggles to hold his temper. We were recommended this book called ‘Starving the anger gremlin’ which has been useful for giving him the vocabulary.

We also did a positive parenting course which was helpful as it helped us to focus our parenting strategies.

Have school said anything?

There are a couple of books that you could use

What to do when you worry too much
What to do when your temper flares
Helping Children deal with anger
Huge bag of worries
Dissapointment dragon
Have you filled your bucket today

Basically, we have been told all behaviour is communication so you need to work out what he is trying to say and the replace it with a better way.

We havent found reward/consequence much help with this.

If this thread is still active, I am having same problems with my DD (6). Feel utterly helpless and distraught!! Love her so much but it's hard to know how to help her best