School 1-2-1

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My dd6 has asd, adhd and stress. She was giving a school one to one support assistant at the start of the school year. We have been informed that this will be changing again next term. This will be her 5th support assistant this school year. Is this the usual as my dd can’t deal with change and this just seems excessive. I have approached the school to say I am unhappy about all the change but they have said as long as she has 1-2-1 that’s the only requirement they need to meet.
Does anyone have any advice as I don’t want to upset my dd anymore and haven’t told her it’s changing after Xmas.

Is she very attached to this assistant?
If she is i would talk to her about changes that can happen that aren't planned but that are necessary - like getting older & growing up. Then people leaving unexpectedly & give DD the oportunity to talk about that a bit & to say what she thinks & feels about it. I'd go gentle with it.

For what its worth its a bit crap that the svhool have left you with the burden of telling her & haven't taken the responsibility of giving your DD the opportunity to say goodbye to the assistant.
Does your DD have a plan? I think ask the local authority to write in that where possible your DD should be prepared for changes by the school -such as staff changes, acknowledging that she finds change hard & unsettling therefore making her educational life more challenging. I mean they must have known in advance that this person was leaving or that they were going to move them from your DD. If not why didn't they know? Can't be that disorganised surely!?

No she hasn’t been able to build any sort of relationship with any of them this will be her 5th one since the start of year 1. The headteacher changed and she doesn’t want the children getting attached to one assistant but my daughter needs some sort of relationship to settle and do what they ask of her. She does have an ehcp which says she needs full time 1-2-1.

My son has 1:1 as part of his EHCP criteria. No they don’t have to legally provide the same one, however, I’ve had the same issue in that he can have more than five different ones In a week. I raised it at the annual review as an issue. They have now tried to reduce it to three. There are different ways of looking at it, firstly too much reliance on one person can be problematic and can cause bigger issues if the person is off or leaves etc and reliance on one individual can hinder independent thinking or actions and it’s not always practical - I get that, but my issue is too many people who don’t communicate with each other so no joined up thinking or approach and without knowing who on what day etc can be detrimental to well being. Anyway, you need a meeting and have your particular issues documented and a planned approach and agree a way forward. Chalk an early review and Involve the LA.