Teacher opinions

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Hi, my son is 8 and diagnosed ADHD and ASD.

His EHCP has been drafted and I'm unhappy with all of the information that has come from one particular teacher at school who apparently doesn't believe in labels

My son's ADHD doctor (Camhs) has attended school a couple of times for meetings. The first time with me, this particular teacher and the SENCO where she was asked all the relevant questions and answered accordingly, although sometimes needed pushing to be completely honest by the SENCO.

The second occasion he visited he arrived early and was asked to wait in a room for 5 minutes while we arrived. This particular teacher went into the room and approached the doctor with some untrue information about my son. Essentially her opinion on something.
The SENCO spent a long time explaining why this information wasn't correct in the meeting but I have now received a letter from the doctor referencing this information and stating that my son will need to be reassessed for ADHD in light of it.

My question is, how do I proceed with this situation now? With the teacher herself?

Sorry for the long post!

Not quite the same but we have it with the current class teacher constantly minimising DD2's difficulties and making out she's "choosing" not to use adaptations that are in place for her (when they've been hidden in the cupboard to try to get her to not ask anymore) and basically just giving out the general aura of either not believing in a diagnosis or not wanting to be fucked.

I now just take up absolutely every breech of things, every attempt at fucking things up (and there have been some shockers recently) with the SENCO who is lovely and really rather pissed off at her colleague's antics of late. I know it's now at the point it's been raised much higher up as well. Goes against every bone in my body to be "against" a teacher - but it's been ridiculous this year (and we're not even at Christmas yet!)

I'm lovely and civil and helpful and polite to the class teacher - hopefully she will learn I'm not the enemy at best, and at worst - that she's not getting away with this nonsense. Thankfully she's not been allowed near any professionals in DD2's case and with her current history I'd be refusing to consent to it unless the SENCO (who I trust) is present.

I'd start dealing with the SENCO in your case if they're anything like ours (who is fabbo) - nothing more elaborate than a "X is getting picked up by his great aunt's dog" type communications in writing with the class teacher really. And obviously paper trail and log everything.

Oh gosh that sounds like a nightmare too!

I forgot to say that my son isn't actually attending school due to the sheer lack of support they gave him while he was there.
He has been out of school since February when his anxieties became so high that he wouldn't go anywhere near the place.

This is another reason I'm so annoyed with this teacher! I don't understand who's benefit it was for. She hasn't laid eyes on him for months, it hasn't been her that has had to deal with the situation in any way

It's dreadful and you wonder sometimes what on earth is inspiring them to behave in such a way (in our case we had twisty-faces and a total lack of cooperation about not wanting to use a fucking handwriting slope FFS - not demanding anything major).

We're now at the point where the teacher puts the whole lovely bubbly Mary Poppins routine on to me through gritted teeth and I return the lovely bubbly helpful parent routine through similar gritted teeth - if it wasn't my child's education at stake it would be quite comical really. We are also both school governors in various roles so she flipping well knows she can't bamboozle me with edu-jargon and hide behind that!

I've coped by getting ridiculously well-informed and being able to quote legislation, guidance on best practice, every single buzz word going and entire sections of the school development plan. She may not like it - but she IS going to do what is required to support my child or I will pull up on every single thing until she does - basically it's easier for her to cooperate and act like a civilised professional!

That sounds like a good plan, I will do my research!
I've had a meeting today in which the other professionals and staff involved were as horrified as I was.
I'm guessing she has been spoken to as she blanked me completely this afternoon. Looks like that's how this is going to be I'm so glad she isn't in charge of my child anymore!

We're back in today to meet with just the senco to discuss what is going on quite firmly. Not looking forward to it and feel bad going behind the teacher's back but when they refuse to engage what else can you do?!