Supporting my lovely friend from a distance

[ElizabethinherGermanGarden]

A dear friend of mine's young son has a combination of a chronic medical condition and newly diagnosed ASD and ADHD. She is brilliant, capable and purposeful; she can negotiate the system as needed. Having said that, I know that it is time-consuming, frustrating and exhausting - she constantly has to pick herself up, muster her energy reserves and keep going.

I want to support her. I live about 2.5 hours drive away so can and will visit. What can I do without making an annoyance of myself? I don't want to try to stick my nose in or offer suggestions when I know that she has already done her research and is more than capable of dealing with all the practical things, but I do want her to know that I'm thinking of her and I do want her to feel personally supported.

Ideas please! Time and mobility are issues - she can't get out/away often, so the usual suggestions eg spa days won't work, which is why I'm asking here. Thank you.

maybe you could arrange a day that you will visit her on, and go every 2 weeks if you can manage it? maybe you could bake some muffins or something to bring with you (breakfast ones) because while it is a small thing, it may mean that she can grab one on the way out of the house, ensuring she has breakfast (busy mums often skip it!) or that she can give her kids one in the morning if she is in a rush x

What a lovely friend! Your friend is lucky to have you. If it were me I’d just feel grateful if a friend said “what can I do that will be helpful/ you’d like/ would make you happy