I feel like a failed parent. Ds2 ,10, has Noonan s syndrome and dyspraxia. I don't know if that is relevant. He has always had a temper and has had frequent meltdowns. When he was a baby he would repeatedly headbang in frustration. Things did get better for a bit but are now hard again. He has huge ,angry meltdowns at least once a day. Shouting, hitting , slamming doors. We leave him alone and then talk when he is calm. He hatas being angry but says he will never be able to control it. We have tried reading books about anger and use calm down techniques. His mmeltdowns don't last as long now but are still frequent. Family life is hard.
At school he is quiet and never in trouble. He has a good group of friends. They all day he hypothyroidism he goes for play dates etc. When out he hates getting things wrong or breaking rules.
Ds1 is currently awaiting as d diagnosis. I feel awful.
Is the doctors the right path ? Feel such a failure