How to help my 4 year old son?

[AmyA78]

I believe my 4 year old son may have some sensory processing issues but I'm not sure if there's something else going on too. I've spoken to his teacher who agrees he has some difficulties but seems to want to just watch and wait. But I'm wondering if I should be more proactive in getting him support as he's so far behind his peers at school.

He has a stammer and problems pronouncing words
He makes weird random noises all the time and constantly speaks non-words
He dribbles and sucks things all the time
He has problems focusing and concentrating
He is can't write his name and his drawings are very basic scribbles
He's struggling to recognise letters and numbers (but can count and do maths well)
He's a fussy eater
He has intense emotions
He won't join in group games
He struggles to get dressed and needs help with the toilet
He's never been able to learn to ride a scooter or bike and is a bit malcoordinated
He has no sense of personal space and often get's in people faces

It's a bit of a long list! He's also a very funny, kind and smart boy and other kids seem to like being around him so it's not all bad! I'm mostly worried that his confidence is slipping and he's starting to get naughty at school. Should I got back to the school? GP? OH? or just wait and see?!

Start with GP - I agree it would make sense to get support as soon as possible

Also maybe talk to SENCO at school?

I wouldn't watch and wait - sometimes the earlier the intervention the better, and it might take a while to get to the bottom of. Definitely worth discussing with the school / SENCO. Ask if they can recommend a speech and language therapist (SALT) and/or occupational therapist. You may need both - hard to say which one to do first. Some occupational therapists have additional training in sensory processing / sensory integration. Some will do school visits / classroom observations as part of an assessment.
Initial assessments from SALT or OT aren't too dear but long-term /regular therapy costs can mount up if private.
GP's are hugely variable. They might be less likely to dismiss what you're saying if you have some evidence from OT or SALT. They're the gatekeepers to NHS services so you will have to negotiate your way past them in the event that you need to access those services.

I agree with pp (speaking as someone who to some extent did sit and wait as I was in a state of denial) - the teacher is not an expert and sometimes intervention is better earlier

Early intervention is the key so don't sit and wait. It could take a while to get appointments through in any case.

As PP said start with GP and ask for referral to SLT and OT. And have a chat with the school SENCO.

Thank you all for your advice. I have an appointment with the school SENCO and a speech therapist. I feel this is a positive first step so thank you for encouraging me to seek help.