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I know i should be happy but I feel so anxious after what I heard today

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Frascati · 10/05/2007 20:37

Dd (asd and adhd) is nearly 8. She is currently in a specialist language provision attached to a ms school.
I spoke to the deputy head today about a specialist high school that I had looked at for dd and actually I felt it wasn't right for dd and the DH agreed.
She then went onto say that the school feel I should be looking at the 2 grammar schools for dd and not the language base in the nearby high school as I thought would have been the next step.
Now honest this is not a gloat. It has been a hard struggle and as the DH put it dd has come a long long way since she started at the school when she 3 yrs old.
My family are happy and cannot understand the anxiety I feel. The school have said that although she met the criteria for the language base nearly 5 yrs ago she has made so much progress that in secondary she wouldn't be suitable.
Now the reason I am unsettled is because if she is in a unit then she will be safe and looked after. In the grammar she will have to hold her own much more.
Why am I feeling so down when dd has done so well. I should be happy but instead my stomach is in knots and I feel strange tbh.

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PanicPants · 10/05/2007 20:41

I'm sure you feel like this because your dd will have to make her own way in the world now, and you won't feel as thought you are protecting her from the harsh world as much as you have been while she was in the unit.

It's a bit like letting go, when you want to just keep her safe.

It's perfectly understandable.

Frascati · 10/05/2007 20:56

Thanks pp. It's hard letting go of any child but when they have sn just feels that little bit harder

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PanicPants · 10/05/2007 21:29

I guess you will just have to let her go, and try to support her all you can at home. She wouldn't be able to stay there forever so maybe, in the long run, this isn't a bad thing.

I'm sure after an initial adjustment period she'll settle down and you'll be amazed at her capabilities.

Frascati · 10/05/2007 21:40

You are so right pp I know

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Frascati · 11/05/2007 18:40

It's just so hard to let go isn't it?

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