Ds7 was an easy baby and toddler, but since about age 4 has had major temper issues which seem to be increasing in frequency. When he was at preschool I went to the GP who sent me to the HV who said it would resolve in time.
In reception there was a terms respite (novelty value of new environment?). Then things escalated, his teacher referred to ed psych who suggested he would find the more structured environment of year one beneficial. Year one went swimmingly, until about half way through when it all restarted and he ended the year with an IEP stating that he needed clear structure and rules, to be listened to etc. At home things were pretty rough in terms of his anger but by the beginning of year two had resolved.
Now it has probably been over six months since his temper has caused me to worry about him at home. The occasional meltdown but no violence, and he generally gets himself under control with minimal intervention from us. He takes himself off to his room (or gets sent) and emerges fairly quickly and calmly.
At school he is having frequent outbreaks of pure fury, having to be restrained by up to four members of staff and has now shoved a pregnant staff member into a wall (she is OK). He is oldest in his year, big for his age and physically able. He is articulate (when not having a meltdown) and teachers consider him bright. He is often charming and kind, helpful and very apologetic after each episode but unable to control himself.
He is becoming very isolated. Oddly enough classmates no longer want to play with him. He attends martial arts once a week which he enjoys but doesn't see the children there elsewhere. He used to spend a lot of time with dd15 but she is busy with GCSEs and her own life. He goes to a friends a few times a month after school if I'm working and she says he's great with her younger child and sets a good example.
The school have requested he be seen by behavioural support and ed psych again, but ultimately I have to face the prospect of him being excluded. I presume I should go back to the GP regarding CAMHS referral?
Just hoping for some pointers really?