Hi all would be grateful for any insight or advice....my nearly 5 year old son has been having difficulties in school. Especially more noticable with doing full days. His behaviour at home has always been problematic also, took a long time to learn to listen and generally has been hard work, mischievious a lot would call it, but I'm pretty sure its more than that. Myself and his father are separated but I dont believe this has caused any of this, I strongly believe he always had it and only now is it becoming more obvious now he is in situations where he has to behave,.
He sees his dad regularly and has a very happy fulfilled life with lots of love and attention so really no need for his general grumpy bad behaviour. When angry about something he cannot snap out of it so situations almost always escalate until he will do something far worse, he hits spits kicks, and worse . all of this he does in school on occasions also, throws things which could be dangerous to other children and they have to take him out of class to the senco teacher who he does spend time with quite a bit.... A meeting was called at the beginning of the yr and I was quite keen that we should push to have him assessed just to see if it could be adhd or something he's needing help with. The school pretty much said it was just a behavioural problem (his actual teacher said we should push for it but we were told there was no funding, this was then changed to they might be able to get him assessed around now, after the summer holidays, so hopefully this is going to happen)....and team around child was mentioned....I didnt think this was needed as me and his father were working together on his behaviour anyway, we have 7 year old twin girls and also another 2 older between us so we are not new to parenting and the behaviours of all others are fine (not angels by any means but no real issues)
So anyway we declined team around child and have since read on here that this is sometimes used to parent blame, saying the problem is caused by the parents so they dont have to offer any help. It was left last time that we would work on his behaviour between us and with some time with senco. He has since had more troubles in school culminating in another meeting being called for his behaviour. My question is can I insist that I would like him assessed and that we dont need team around child or anything else to fob us off? And is there anything else I should be doing/asking etc.....
I feel the school werent quite being honest when they said first of all he had to be going full time for 2 full terms before he could be assessed, and anyway one full term surely is enough for them to see that there is a problem and surely the sooner it is recognised and addressed the better? I do recall after bad behaviour continued it was mentioned tht they may be able to have him assessed sooner....I am not being unreasonable to insist that this happens now as we've most definitely tried at working together to improve behaviour in every other way.