ADHD ?? Worrying symptoms 10 yo DD

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For a long time I've had concerns about DD's inability to make or sustain friendships and her behaviour in general. However DH just thinks she is a self-confident, bossy girl!

The behaviours she exhibits include:
Vocally very loud
Verbal diarrhoea, interrupts, contradicts. Her view/opinion must come first
Limited impulse control and self-regulation of behaviour. Can't stop doing whatever it is until the situation escalates
V bossy, always correcting people, telling people where they are going wrong
Inability to sustain friendships; makes a new 'BFF' one day then says that person is horrible within a couple of days
Always saying people "don't understand" her and often comes out of school saying there has been a falling out over something she doesn't understand ,
No difference in behaviour at home if rewards or sanctions used.

She is gifted in drama so for a long time all this behaviour was just wrapped up as being "luvvy" inclined but I see it as way more than that and am now worried for her as she
Moves into year 5

We did approach the school a while back who did acknowledge that she is one a kind, but apart from a tendency to interrupt and fall out with people they didn't see a problem. I'm not convinced anymore.

12 DS can't bear to her around any of his friends as says she just has no "off button" and says the most excruciating embarrassing things to them

Where do I go with this. She is emotinally mature enough to sometimes recognise her behaviour and gets upset about it but seems unable to change anything. Any help very gratefully received.

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Hello check out Irlens Syndrome (visual stress) very often co-morbid with but also can be separate from Dyslexia. Often missed in testing.

Sorry replied to wrong person

Late to this, but sounds very like ADHD to me. Definitely worth pursuing.

Read with interest as I have a DD just like yours OP. School acknowledge she is 'unique' but insist there are no special needs as such. It was actually her dance teacher who pulled me to one side and asked me to consider that she may have ADHD. I'm a bit lost too.

Autistic girls are often talented mimics, and can be exceptional at drama. My daughter was diagnosed with ASC a couple of years ago. This list: taniaannmarshall.wordpress.com/2013/06/22/first-signs-of-asperger-syndrome-in-young-girls-pre-school/ rang bells for me, and started me off on a bit of a journey of research into autistic girls. Autism presents very differently in girls to boys, and is diagnosed at a much lower rate. It often becomes more obvious at the Y4/Y5 age as their peers become more socially adept, and they find it ever more confusing to try and keep up.

I've got one like this too :) with a few differences from your DD.

She gets told off sometimes for not concentrating at school, fidgeting, talking too much/ inappropriately etc.

You mention the school didn't see a problem. I wonder if schools are less inclined to see girls as having ADHD-type problems and intervene? I mention that because of a conversation I had with DD the other day. she said t hat because she is a "good girl" she never gets cut any slack whereas the loud, disruptive, inattentive boys she is often prone to being placed next to have lots of adaptions, fiddle toys, special cushions etc. Of course it could be that the boys are more severely affected/ diagnosed/ have more vocal parents, I don't really know, but it did make me wonder.