Aspie at super selective or keep him at good but very small state school

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Ds1 has had an offer of a place for his final year of primary, reasons we applied are: he was being bullied by boys in the year below him mainly, he is extremely bright but is getting away with doing the bare minimum. His big sister goes to super selective and loves it. The school he is at is tiny, there are no other boys in his year, 3 girls who are pretty tight and don't include him. Boys in year below give him a pretty hard time.

My worries are that there will be more stronger personalities at the bigger school and could be he gets bullied all the more? It's a long journey and an early start for him. As of next year a lot of independence would be asked of him and how he would deal with that? The whole question is complicated by the fact ds2 is awaiting diagnosis of autism and has a severe language delay. We need to think carefully about where to put him to school but that's another thread. Thanks for reading

I think there might be quite a few boys who are similar to your DS at the super selective, so he could fit right in. Have you discussed this with the school? They might be able to reassure you.

Yes, I have talked about it with them. In the context of the school being mega sporty and ds1 not being. They have all sorts of clubs, I think that's my hope of giving him a bigger bank of like minded people. He is so kind, funny and clever but very gentle too. His only experience of school has been the very little one so he is anxious about going to the bigger school. Thank you for your reply, it has helped.

My DS sounds very much like yours, he is now 14. He goes to a superselective and loves it. He has a handful of like minded friends.

Oh thank you dusty, chocface. These are exactly what I need to hear. If I could be fairly confident he would find a group there it would he so much easier