parents evening with my dyslexic child i I am in tears please help

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I tonight have had personal attacks fromds teacher and its my fault because he doesn't listen or organise himself. What have I got to do to make people understand. I feel so upset she was really rude

Let us know how today goes for your ds and you, overdraft.

Hi Overdraft, hope you and your ds are having a better day. Keep us informed of how you get on!

God this teacher sounds like a a right dragon... has she had any training in dyslexia? I find it shocking that teachers are so ignorant of dyslexia and special needs...

Good letter twig...

let us know how you get on...

Can only agree with CF - the teacher sounds very out of touch with current educational philosophies & SEN. Newer teachers are usually trained (if fairly minimally) on Dylesxia and the LEA should run courses on SEN for teachers to attend, so there is no excuse for her lack of knowledge. Her lack of comapssion and rudeness is also inexcusable. Whether or not your son should have been up a tree is none of her business - if she was bothered, she should have dealt with it at the time, not bring it up at parent's evening which is a time to discuss your son's progress and how you, your son & the teacher can work together to help him overcome some of his difficulties. Definitely meet with the head, but remain calm (I know it's hard). Try to find out how she has tried to help with his handwriting - has she helped him sit properly? Given him different types/ shapes of pencil to use? Had him do something that he might be proud of? Does he have regular TAUGHT handwriting practice (rather than just copying out of a book - sometimes kids need to be shown how to form certain letters or write in a certain way) Has she provided some he can do at home so that you are involved? And how has she helped with his listening?

Sorry, I'm rambling - am just very at the way she dealt with the situation. Hope you are feeling a bit better about things. Let us know how you get on.

many teachers only get a 1 day training course (ie 10-3pm) in dyslexia

Does he press too hard on the paper? One thing I use is some foam type underlay from laminate - I get children to put it under the paper and if they make holes they are pressing too hard. Ds also writes better using a decent fountain pen. Squared paper is useful too - helps with size and spacing. Ask her to show you the school's preferred cursive writing style - if it involves taking pen off paper mid-word it's the wrong one for him. F can be a problem letter. I can find the reference if you want it for the reasoning. Your son is not getting what he deserves - lucky he has you as his teacher doesn't seem to have a clue!

Thank you for all your kind and helpful posts.Thought I would update you all.I wrote the letter ou and then heard that my son had a chance of moving to a school nearer to home which I have been on the waiting list for over a year.As to not rock the boat I held fire and I am glad to say that he starts his new school on Tuesday.I am so pleased. Do you know I don't care if he dosen't get his beating dyslexia ect at the new school I hope they do have time to put it in place.The point is his soul is not being destroyed on a daily basis by this horible woman.I have wordshark at home and I am going to get the toe to toe book and we will do ten mins a night and i will make sure he is not losing out.

teachers may only get a day training course but I haven't had any.If I were a teacher with a child with a problem in my class i would read up on it.If you don't care enough about the pupils and only like teaching the easy children then I think it would be time to leave. Think it is very sad

I haven't read all the posts, but I'm glad your son is getting a chance for a fresh start. As I know from bitter experience the erosion of self-esteem is one of the worst things about having a dyslexic child in a setting that can't/won't meet his or her needs. My kids had a swimming lesson today at a private school where their swimming teacher mainly works and he showed us around afterwards. He was telling us all about the specialist dyslexia centre the school has and how it is expanding, and how all the dyslexic children use laptops in class. There is no way I could afford that school for my children, but I must say I left with a very bitter taste in my mouth to see the very different education my dyslexic boys could have if we had the money.