My DS is in Y7 and got a statement in Y6 - he has ASD (Aspergers). Part 3 of the statement is quite prescriptive and contains a substantial set of provisions to be put in place to meet the objectives set out.
He attends a school that has an outstanding reputation for special needs and, while he achieves well academically, the statement reflects the behavioural difficulties he has stemming from his autism (including meltdowns in class, refusal to work, a high level of perfectionism that sometimes leaves him unable to start or complete tasks through fear of failure).
My worry is that the school, despite its reputation, is not making all of the necessary provision and, where he is failing to cope in class, they are using standard sanctions i.e. detentions to address this. I believe this also includes sanctions against issues clearly arising from his disability such as tapping (stimming) when he isn't coping.
I would really appreciate some advice about how to move this forward with the school. We want a good and positive relationship with the school but at the moment we have daily phone calls to tell us about behavioural issues, may of which we attribute to his ASD, but which the school see as defiance or refusal to cooperate. Please, any advice much appreciated.