Thats the problem.
When he was in school the school said wait till he is older and wouldn't do anything and since now he is home edded I have tried to find out about getting him assessed but I have been told you can only get an assessment if the child is referred from his school.
The problem is we visited a lot of schools when they had their open evening last October when ds was in the senior school we were not happy with.
We went with an open mind. We ignored all OFSTED ratings and wanted to get a school we both felt comfortable with.
We chose 5 to go on the tour of the school during the day and got it down to 3
One of them I was a little nervous of as it was very academic, it had been purely selective on Music, Sports or Academic but this year had to include the catchment area as part of its selection process and I was nervous of sending ds there as the teacher who showed us around did not take on board that this September intake might not live up to the standard 12 GCSE A* that previous pupils had come away with.
Another was in a beautiful modern building with every facility you could imagine but on the walk around we witnessed a child having stand up arguement with the teacher, we went into a classroom to see a lesson in progress and a pupil turned to us and said
"Don't come here it's shit"
There were quite a lot of classrooms with pupils stood outside.
And as we were leaving we saw one boy running out of school pursued up to when boy jumped the wall by 2 teachers/adult shouting for him to come back. So that was struck off our list.
The final school we saw was we thought really really nice. The pupils and teachers had a banter going on but it was done in a way that the pupils still looked up to the teachers, the building itself was falling apart. It was in the back end of our local town but we agreed we both felt comfortable with it.
The only school we can get into is the modern one with the discipline problem and I feel that it would be a backward step to send him there.
The other 2 both were over subscribed by 2000+
One of the reasons we pulled him out of his last school was because of a discipline problem and after 6 weeks he had only managed to complete at the most 3 sides of pages in an exercise book. In certain subjects there were only 6 lines written in that subjects book. The school had a new HT who in trying to tackle the discipline problem had the teachers in each lesson cover the school rules for the first 2 1/2 weeks then during lessons if anyone said or did anything, no matter how minor all the lesson would stop whilst they spent the rest of the lesson going over the school rules.
I actually did not believe ds when he told me what was happening so I rang his head of year who confirmed it.
So at the moment I am home edding. Not what I wanted to do for senior school. But feel I have no choice.