SPD and my 4 year old

[turtle23]

I am pretty much just at my wits end. DS1 has been recently diagnosed as having SPD and we have had huge problems with preschool. Now he has had two settling in mornings at "big school" I have been called in to talk with the teachers who were very kind about saying he was a nightmare. I do not know how to deal with it anymore. Just needed to vent. Thank you.

Educate yourself then educate the teachers. Important they understand that he is not just being naughty. He needs to do things to stimulate himself or avoid being overstimulated. Strategies can be put in place to help him. Cn be as simple as letting hi o push ups against a wall every now and then, avoiding having to line up with other kids etcWho diagnosed? Did they give you a sensory diet ? Go on amazon and search in books for sensory processing. The ones that are full of activities or aimed at teachers will be helpful.

Thanks ohmeohmy. We had an OT do all the tests last Friday. I am trying, but it takes time to get through to everyone. I was under the impression that the talk I had with the head had made sense and that she had had a word with the teachers. Now I know that I will be starting all over again trying to convince them of something they can't see. I just needed to vent more than anything. I am so sad for him and just want it all to be ok. Over the next few weeks we have the NHS appt to get him therapy, allergy testing and alsorts. Is just making myself heard until I produce all the relevant pieces of paper that is hurting. The look they gave me at pickup today said it all. :(

It's tough but this is where you go all out for your ds. Time for tiger mother. You need to get them on side, give them books to read or photocopy bits for them, maybe get the OT to talk to the head, find websites to direct them to and tell them very specifically what they can do to help. Make them understand that if they do things in a way that helps your ds cope they will also reap the rewards by having a calmer attentive child.
What are his sensitivities? We were told that there is no point forcing them to stop what they need to do, his brain needs it. If he finds touch difficult, work out ways he eg. Doesnt have to sit squeezed in on the carpet with other kids, let him go at the back of any line, let him move around the school before or after other kids so he is not getting jostled etc. Really simple stuff that can make a lot of difference. If noise is a problem, let him wear ear defenders at noisy time... If he needs to move find ways he can say do some jumping before he sits down to do focussed work.
I know it is really tough and upsetting. Books like The out of sync child have checklists that can help you pinpoint the areas where your child has issues. From there you can figure out what to do to help him. Maybe look through some old threads from here too. He is acting out because the environment is too overwhelming for him, he is not a bad boy.

Yes. Thanks. I think I just needed a good night's sleep to get my strength back. Off to get copies of all the books for the new school. Hear me roar. :)