A mum of 2 with Dyslexia - Tips for life?

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Hi, I was diagnosed with Dyslexia when I was about 8-9yrs old and had a certain amount of extra help through out school.

Since leaving education many years ago (I'm now 32) it hasn't really occured to me, untill now, that my dyslexia effects my whole life.

I am uncomfortable socialising in group situations, I have poor stamina, I find it very difficult to plan and order my day/week. I struggle with routines. My house it always a tip because I don't seem to be able to keep on top of it and it overwhelms me.

Can anyone tell me where I might find advise on dealing better with life and dyslexia?

My dh doesn't understand why I find it all so hard.

house work that is.

The British Dyslexia association website has a section for adult, the being dyslexic website can help too. I know some US homeschooling Mums produce tick sheets to help their kids do chores, something similar might help you with housework.

I would suggest you borrow some books on dyslexia from the library for you and your DH to read, so you can both understand how much of life it can affect.
[http://filmguide.sundance.org/film/120053/the_d_word_understanding_dyslexia This film]] is supposed to be really good, it's not on DVD yet, but might be helpful when it is.

Thanks mummytime I had a look. Couldn't see where there are observations of life as a parent with dyslexia.

I wondered if my assesment of myself was correct. Also how other parents (mothers) with dyslexia deal with running a household.

Any one else around now?

Hi,
I am Yorky's other half, mummytime is right in what she says. I found out I was dyslexic at uni. Some ideas for you:

1. The night before you go to bed, take a pen and a bit of paper and walk round the house, write down things you want to do the next day. Then put them in a priority list. In the morning work down the list, this should help to structure the house. You might chose to do a room a day.

1. Get a family planner and write in a routeen, you need to remeber that your perception of time is not the same as others, i have found on may ocasions thinking, i have 5 mins before i can go out ill just have a cup of tea. To this you mightr find it helpful to time how long timgs take to do.

I would suggest the british dyslexia association is the best place to start.

Rob

Sorry RL, my niece got her Mum to give her a list of jobs and order, for example to clean the bathroom, she finds this helps her.
I'm just chaotic, and procrastinate but then I'm dyspraxic, my DS is dyslexic and does find being told to tidy his room is impossible. His dyslexic sister finds it hard to do Food tech homework where she has to turn "cooking a pizza" into a flow chart. The non dyslexic one is the youngest, and can tidy on her own really well etc., if she is motivated.

I have dyslexia too, I'm not sure what advice is out there but I buy extensively from Organised mum - the family planner is great and I use the meal planner.

I also have a phone that links mine and dh's calendar together so we both know when appointments are and it will remind me.

I'm different because I love routines, if I know what to expect then I can plan for it - one of the worst situations for me is being given something to read and asked to comment on it straight away, I just get panicky ie reading the MMR leaflet at the docs just as the nurse was drawing up the injection, I couldn't make sense of it and was panicked that I needed to there and then.

I also hate phone calls but not found a way of dealing with that - if I have to I reherse the conversation in my head first. Text messaging and emails are great (although my spelling is appalling )

In terms of managing the house, I found the fly lady website - its too much for me to read but the idea is that you do a small job every day (she calls it baby steps) to get back on top of stuff. I have it marked in my calendar when to change the beds for example and stick to it, or something like, Tuesday clean bathroom, Monday hoover, friday food shopping.... also 15 minutes decluttering a day and clean the sink (everything off draining board) at end of day - sounds silly but it helps

what is it about socialising you dislike?

as mummytime said look at the adult section of the British Dyslexia website - view running the household and organise the children as a job/employment and here has some good advice