DD1 is 7 years old. I am deeply concerned about her. On occasion at school she will not talk to the teacher if she is getting told off about something. She won't make eye contact and if she does she just stares at them. We were called into the school as apparantly since august this has been getting worse. She will now hardly talk to the teacher even if it isn't getting a row. She doesn't take part in group teaching, she prefers to do her work alone. She can't even work with one other child as she won't share her views. The teachers are seeing this as defiance and she gets into even more trouble for it. Outside at school she doesn't really play with anyone and she keeps getting into trouble for trying to kiss people (She told me she doesn't know why she does this but sometimes she does it as they are annoying her and it makes them go away) or for doing silly things.
There has been a bit of a bullying issue concerning an older child who is telling others to say she has done things to get her into trouble. Since she won't talk to the teacher they can't get her side of the story. But the teachers have seen her do some things so I know she is actually misbehaving at times.
The school seem concerned about this wall of silence she has put up and think she is alienating herself from others. They offered no advice to us other than to have a word and if she continues this then she'll be getting in trouble more. The school say she is choosing not to talk. Also they sometimes have to ask her 7/8/9 times to do something before she'll go and do it.
I'm really not sure were to go with it, she said she doesn't know why she won't talk to them. Could she have a special educational need ?