lot questions re poss aspergers referral in from school teenager

[BiggerAndBadder]

lots questions -
son age 14
from toddler all through school.
now being referred from school for assessment. was shadowed by inclusion officer and we had meeting at school this week and they said they saw signs to indicate aspergers was a possibility and did we want a referral. woman who watdhed him said if it was her kid she would go for it. we said yes.
had someone from camhs who gave some advice saying before the meeting which may be 6 to 8 weeks to look at the triad of impairments on line and try and think of examples from toddlerhood to now of how he may fit into the different categories as we may not be able to think of everything on the day if we dont prepare - sounds like good advice.
just wonder if anyone else has gone through this at htis age? and also i do have a lot of other questions, but lets get the ball rolling?

BiggerAndBadder

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Not 14 but 11 yes.We went through this last year(ds 12 now).It was a complete shock to us-initiated by school also.Looking back there were signs but we weren't looking out for anything. School brought in educ.psych.who met us separately and then assessed ds and said she would recommend going for a private dx as waiting list is so long.We did this and got a dx of Aspergers though v. mild. It has helped us and him a lot to understand certain behaviours etc. Not sure what secondary school will be like next year though! Good luck! You are doing the right thing by having him assessed.

I have been meaning to start writing some stuff down but still feel overwhelmed!
I actually think it a will help my husband and his siblings to realise he isn't a naughty pain but there is a reason for how he behaves.
On the weekend he kicked off during a walk with his dad and me and the dog. His dad said if he couldn't behave he could walk home. As he is diabetic too and had no snack etc with him when he decided to take this literally I followed him and we eventually got home lots of trauma on the way but I used a strategy suggested by camhs guy of not getting worked up or into details. Just said factually and simply why X or y wasn't something I wanted him to do, or was inappropriate to talk about. Shock. On the whole it worked and was so much less stressful for both of us! We walked an extra 5 miles. It took 5 hours. We had issues on the way. After about 3.5 miles he seemed back to normal and was acting as if nothing had happened. How does that happen? I was drained!

I have been meaning to start writing some stuff down but still feel overwhelmed!
I actually think it a will help my husband and his siblings to realise he isn't a naughty pain but there is a reason for how he behaves.
On the weekend he kicked off during a walk with his dad and me and the dog. His dad said if he couldn't behave he could walk home. As he is diabetic too and had no snack etc with him when he decided to take this literally I followed him and we eventually got home lots of trauma on the way but I used a strategy suggested by camhs guy of not getting worked up or into details. Just said factually and simply why X or y wasn't something I wanted him to do, or was inappropriate to talk about. Shock. On the whole it worked and was so much less stressful for both of us! We walked an extra 5 miles. It took 5 hours. We had issues on the way. After about 3.5 miles he seemed back to normal and was acting as if nothing had happened. How does that happen? I was drained!

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