Furious with teacher, should I write a letter and who to?

[carocaro]

PPA teacher DS1 aged 8 had every other week made him stay in the classroom to finish off work and not go to lunch with the rest of his class, he was upset and hungry. The TA had already left the classroom to help lunch service.

He is dyslexic, which ppa teacher knows, so needs more time and help on occasion. Went into the classroom this morning and TA and teacher apologised said it should not have happened at all. He was also supposed to go and finish this work with her and miss play today if he had not finished which will not be happening either.

I am still fuming, I think she picked on him as I compained about her in year 1, she said he was at a certain reading leven and he was no where near, she basically lied.

I cannot get out of my head DS1 being upset and hungry and being punished for not finishing his writing. Talk about how to put him right off something he finds hard anyway.

I really want to go scream at her which I won't of course. But I want some recourse for her actions, shall I write to the head?

carocaro, I can definitely see where you are coming from . I would be mortified if my DS had been made to miss lunch!
I can also see why you would want to write to the Head, but also think talking face to face would be better for all concerned especially if you can arrange a meeting where all parties are present so you get the full story.

Try to stay calm though as it won't help DS if he knows how upset you are.

Much better to go in and have a chat-stay calm.

I agree that you should discuss the incident - but still follow it up in writing. The problem with 'chats' is that they aren't logged and if the situation worsens, you have no evidence when the problems began. You need to start keeping logs of incidents and a paper trail by following up incidents in writing. Sadly schools often don't make reasonable adjustments for pupils with SEN and you may end up having to seek recourse at an appeal later on.

By all means stay calm, keep your language neutral and say that you're seeking 'clarification'. The teacher has already apologised and admitted it was wrong, but unfortunately mistakes often happen again if they're not policed by the parents.

Go in and have a chat and if you feel that you have got not further in the matter then request to speak to the Head of the Keystage/someone in management.

I agree with Cat64, before saying anything double check what the reason was for keeping him in.