Hi
Just having a bit of a pants couple of weeks with dd (AS, Dyspraxia and high impulsivity & hyperactivity levels).
She has been mostly ok since starting Year 3 in Sept, misses not having that last play though and has been broadly speaking "ok".
I'm not too keen on her teacher this year, very quiet and a bit wishy washy for dd's needs.
My question really is how do we help dd to stop all the silly behaviour in class. Most of it is to make other kids laugh, the teacher is well aware that she does this. They get 1/2hr of golden time on a Friday and during the week they lose 3 minutes if they have misbehaved. So far dd has lost 15 mins this week, the most she has ever lost.
* Monday lost 3 for messing about with some string and a ruler so got a sad face warning, then the boy next to her gives her another piece of string which she then messes about with and loses GT.
* Later she shouts out "fat man" for no reason at all.
* Tuesday the same boy next to her takes her pencil grip off her so she shouts and grabs it off him giving him a little shove in the process. 3 minutes lost (boy not punished for aggravating).
* Today lost 3 for putting a pencil in one of her fiddly balls and banging it against her head and repeating "Ow", "Ow", "Ow" over and over. She lost golden time and was made to stand outside the class for 3 minutes (never heard them do that before).
* Then later today her table had a task to write down stuff about the Romans, one person had the sheet to do the writing and she didn't think this was fair so made a real fuss. she was told to calm down and then maybe they could pass it round, she did calm down and tried to take the sheet off the boy who got upset and wouldn't give it up. She told me she thought that if she calmed down the teacher said they could pass it round, but I think she said "maybe", so confusion and no understanding of her takinf that literally.
I have an IEP with the teacher next Thurs morning with dd (never done one with her before). I really want to try and help her in class rather than just punishing her when they take away GT. They do have a happy book where she gets stickers but I don't think that is working well. Problem is she sees herself as naughty and so do all the children. She was close to tears after school when she told me she had lost 6 more minutes and that was the most ever. Every day she says she wont lose anymore but things just get the better of her. Last week she only lost 3 mins on Monday and that was for drawing a smiley face on a steamed up window (again she said the children said it was a great face and laughed).
Any reward systems that work well in class? The Specialist advisory teacher is going in next Tue to give a circle time talk with dd on AS. DD really wants the kids in class to know that she finds some things difficut and she isn't just naughty. I just feel so down. I want to help her so much and just don't know if they are expecting too much of her. If she keeps messing about with her fiddlies they take them away, and she needs them. The pull of the other kids laughing is just too much of a pull and I don't know how to stop it, she is so easily influenced.
Sorry the post is so long. I just want some suggestions to take to the teacher next week. DD has no statement or any extra one to one help at all. She justs plods on in a mainstream class of 31 and I think mostly does brilliantly!
She is also very bright and I am wondering if a bit bored. School are very defensive though and I know they will say its no big deal or telling me she has to learn.
Thanks for listening
bear
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