Help !!!! twins/dyslexia/behaviour/assessments

[wittsend1975]

I have twin 9 year old boys who have both been diagnoised with dyslexia this past year.o get this done i had to move schools as the school they where in made me feel as if they just needed more time to be read with, however within 2 weeks of being in their new school where tested and proved to have difficulties. The school they are in now is fantastic, they have also tested them with speech and language and the one boy only scored on the first percentile on expressive language.However since christmas their behavior has spirrled out of control(it was bad before but now whooaaa). They are refusung to do school work,sit and do what is asked of them. running out of class,being rude to the teachers and have such explosive outbursts. I could go on and on.One boy was excluded for hitting the headmistress when he stormed out of class and has tried but cant seem to help himself,and the other lad has been on a reduced timetable for the last month and when he is in school he tries but struggles to contain himself. They have such rivalry between them and appear to swap behaviors.This weekend one lad used his brothers mobile phone to make a hoax call to 999 and I just dont know what to do any more. I have accepted advice from agencies such as family thearapy etc and they seem content that its a learning/educational problem but i feel there is somthing eles, socially they can be ok once they get familiar they do make eye contact but at times you have to encourage it.With their peers it is their way or nothing,the boys view them as friends but it appears one sided. they both view things very black and white and are very stubborn, hence the stand offs with the teachers.My husband has dyslexia and a weird gene which is very strong in his family of people with very poor social skills and withdrawn. These people are adults or gone but if in the educational system today would defo be on the aspergers or autism spectrum.Luckily they do have an assessment with the ed phyc next week, however im at my witts end and soo worried they will grow into handbag stealing junkies.

Hi, I have dtbs aged 9 too, one of whom is on SEN and whose behaviour at times is just awful.

At work at the moment so will come back later, didn't want to just read and go!

One question though, are they in the same class? Mine aren't and I'm not sure how they would both behave if they were together, not so well I think.

Anyway will be back later!

Not really sure how to advise you but wanted to bump it for you.

Have you been to your GP? May be worth a try?

Thank you, we have had a referal to the child assessment unit and they wont do anything untill the ed pych has seen them(which is wednesday). I also had a muliti-dis meeting yesterday,the lady from the assessment unit was there and feels that its educational. After she left both the school and another woman both said they have a habit of brushing things of as educational.

I would want them to be split at school if at all possible. (Why do your 9 year olds need a mobile phone? I would confiscate those.)

If they are dyslexic they could well be very tired after school, so at home their behaviour could deteriorate. Has the school tried a behaviour diary, where they get smileys for good behaviour, sad faces for bad etc.?

I am a bit that one has been excluded. In my opinion exclusion should come after a full range of other options have been explored. How were the twins assessed for dyslexia? Have they seen and educational psychologist before? Did these behaviour problems just kick off at their new school? Or have there been underlying (possibly not as bad) issues before? What other differences are there between the schools (especially structure and routine)? Have there been any changes in diet? Do they get enough exercise?

These are the kind of things the professionals should be asking. I would also ask the school if they could provide some way for them to request time out, and a safe time out place.

I don't have all the answers, and am struggling with my own 7 year olds behaviour; but I do have some of the questions!

Good luck!