I just wanted to speak on something that’s been on my mind for a while now.
For a bit of context, I’ve never really felt included by my future in-laws. Recently, I was actually invited to a family gathering, which isn’t something that happens often. While I was there, I ended up having a chat with one of my fiancé’s cousins. She was asking general questions—like how we met, when we’re planning to get married, that sort of thing. The conversation flowed quite naturally, and at one point, I mistakenly mentioned a dependency my fiancé has (I won’t go into detail here). She gave her advice, and that was that.
The next day, I got a call from my fiancé who was really upset. Apparently, the cousin had told him that I said I was using him for his money and that I intentionally get him drunk. I was honestly shocked—I never said anything like that. I was upfront and admitted that I had mentioned the bad habit, and I knew that was wrong of me. But what she told him was completely untrue. Thankfully, my fiancé didn’t believe her.
Later on, we had a group call with his cousin and sister to try and clear things up. On that call, the cousin ended up backtracking and basically contradicted herself, which made it clear she’d exaggerated. I apologised again for even bringing up the bad habit.
But then things took a turn. His sister got really upset and started insulting me. She said, “This is why God gave you an illness.” For context, I was very unwell last year (Alhamdulillah, I’ve recovered now), and it was a really difficult time in my life. She also told me I’d “ruined everything.” She was saying a lot of things but I stayed quiet through it all, but it really hurt and it’s been playing on my mind ever since.
Now I’m left wondering—was I completely in the wrong? Did I really deserve that kind of treatment? My fiancé said she had every ‘right’ to cuss me and that I should just move on from it. I know I made a mistake by oversharing, but is this a sign of what’s to come?