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Feeling depressed

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shininglight16 · 15/11/2024 01:07

I won't make this a long one..I don't have the energy to type. I just wanted to say that I've suffered mental abuse from my in-laws and it just won't stop.

My in-laws are sly, cunning, narcissistic and an absolute shit show. I confronted my MIL about her behaviour and she's gone absolutely ballistic. She's become a psychopath and won't stop posting shit on social media that is indirectly aimed at me. I'm at a loss for words. She's triggered my anxiety even more.

She's become so evil that I fear she's going to harm me in some way or the other. I've only met vicious women all over, they hate being told they're wrong or that they're hurting me. They can't bear the thought of someone standing up for themselves. They want to see me broken, sad, depressed and beaten.

I won't be tolerating it, she posted something about me treating her wrong and that I would regret it. Absolute bullshit.

How can someone be so vicious, malicious, conniving, cunning, evil, egomaniac and narcissistic? I wish I never met my in-laws, they've made me go through hell.

I've blocked her now, she must be fuming. Is there anything else I can do? My hands are shaking thinking about how nasty she can be. I don't want to stoop to her level.

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lovemyboyz247 · 15/11/2024 17:33

Your husband needs to say to them that enough is enough.

Without taking over your thread my husband was completely up his parents backsides for years. We dated for over 10 years so I thought I knew him well, but I didn't know how controlling his parents were and how much influence they had over him. I moved in with him and his family on the day of our wedding and had the shock of my life. We have been married for over 20 years now and his family still live with us, but after all these years he has finally put up boundaries now and doesn't take as much crao from them. At first I used to moan at him about them, but this used to cause arguments between me and him so I stopped. Then one day after I had my second child I just started answering back. My husband didn't get involved and my in laws realised I had enough of them. Years later and he's had enough too. Life is not easy, but it's easier than it was.

If your husband puts up with it, they will think it's ok to carry on. He needs to tell them he's had enough and is not putting up with this anymore. They might withhold money or cancel him out of their will, but you don't need their shit money. You will be fine after building your own future with your husband and looking after your child.

I know it's not easy, but you will get there. If you tell us which area you live in London then we might be able to suggest help groups for you. I strongly suggest you go to counselling to deal with the past trauma as it seems to be eating away at you. It's easy for people to say move on - I know it's not easy but it's important as that's the only way you will be able to move on from this trauma and live your life with your husband and your daughter.

I wish you the best of luck

PinkHydrangea · 15/11/2024 17:50

Hi @shininglight16 I don't know if you're aware of this organisation but have a read of their definition of domestic abuse and see if they might be worth contacting for someone to talk to.

southallblacksisters.org.uk/get-help/what-is-domestic-abuse/

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