How do those with older sibling who takes on a parental role deal with it?
We have an elder sibling who has always had to take on some of the usual Asian culture of being in a semi parent role growing up,even though we had active parents. Helping to look after us, giving advice when needed. They're the one parents go to for advice etc if anything comes up, they're the first to be consulted. Which is all fine , we get it -the respect is there and we love them very much.
BUT this sibling now comments on everything we do, our parenting skills, how the children should be doing xyz by now , how they should be eating xyz, why don't they behave like that, why are you living life this way not that way, this would be better for you and so on and so on.
It's getting tiresome and just feels so judgey all the time. They're quite opinionated on others too, but it's really starting to exasperate me. I don't know how how to handle this without it blowing up to them feeling disrespected as the older. Is it something we have to just learn to live with being south Asian or combat it?