This is a rather complicated posting. My son met a Thai girl on holiday and after several years married her in Thailand - we knew nothing about this until afterwards. She has come to live in UK and we have welcomed her and included in her all aspects of our lives. They now have a daughter together who is very beautiful. My daughter in law came from a poor area in North East Thailand, both mother and father dead - she has a brother and an aunt.
Some weeks ago my son dropped a bombshell. I would seem that his wife has a son of 13 by a previous relationship living with her aunt who they are now bringing to live with them. My son says he has always known about the boy and has been keeping him, ie sending him money, for some time. The boy arrives in the UK tomorrow.
I am extremely worried that my daughter in law could be playing him. Once she has settled status she could divorce him and as she has two children could be awarded the house which he had bought before they met - a non marital asset. She seems to have accrued £25K during their marriage during which time she worked on minimum wage in a care home - no explanation as to where the money has come from. Has he been giving her money as well? She has contributed nothing to the care of her son or the running of the household.
I am not sure how much she cares for my son. She does very little work in the house other than look after the baby. She does not cook for him or does any cleaning all of which he does when he gets home from work. When staying here once, my son was taken ill and we had to take him to hospital. Not once did she ask if he was ok or show any concern.
My son tells me that he is happy that they are all in his life - that is it. Would love someone to tell me that my fears are unfounded.