Should I keep contact?
I left my abusive husband august 4th this year, he sent me a divorce 18th Sept. we share a 2.5 year old, after the divorce and a lot of discussions with family with how bad the last 3 almost 4 years have been I was advised by my family to report him to the police. I’m in the UK.
I wasn’t aware what I experienced was abuse, and that’s the reason I was who I’ve become, an empty shell with a broken spirit. I do recall posting on here last summer and also anonymously on mumsnet & was made aware a lot of these things aren’t normal but I would often gaslight myself into believing maybe I’m overreacting / these people don’t understand bc they don’t follow my religion.
To put the last 3 years shortly, I was forced to cover my face, I couldn’t work with males at my job unless he approved, I couldn’t control my own finances, he would often criticise me and humiliate me in front of family subtly how he knew it would hurt. He’d use religious scripture to manipulate me into sleeping with him, made revenge porn threats all while cheating on me online multiple times in our marriage. keep in mind he is seen as a religious figure in our community.
In terms of child contact he hasn’t harmed our child in any way directly, and nor has his family. I do believe I’d like to share custody of our son after coming to an appropriate agreement. However since approaching the police they advised not to send the child until things are more clear.
My Q is, though HE has abused me, I miss his family dearly especially his mother. My child’s grandmother, is it appropriate for me to keep contact with his parents? Just parents. Via FaceTime etc.
The police investigation is still underway, he or his family don’t know I have approached the police & won’t until the police arrest him for whatever their charges are (I am not aware of these myself yet)