Hello all,
I’ll cut straight to it.
I drank heavily until finding out I was 7 and a half weeks pregnant, nearly daily.
Now sober, I can now admit I did have a dependence problem.
However I struggled with guilt and severe pre natal depression which carried over and resulted into post natal depression and anxiety.
I am sad to say I compare my little girl features to others and have done since she was 5 months old or so.
i love her with all my heart but I fear I my drinking has resulted in her having some features related to fas.
I have seen GPs, peds and they have all told me they do not see what I am seeing. I was even reffered to generics just to put my mind at ease, they too said they don’t see what I see. I have prescribed setraline but have yet to start.
She is and has been advanced so - walking since 9 months, has said about 90 words, She is happy, she knows and sings alongs to songs, knows colours, animals etc. This is the only thing that brings me comfort however I know it is a spectrum and problems could arise later in life.
I have uploaded photos of her features - I am worried her eye shape and size - I know they are not big as other babies but do they indicate fasd? I am also worried about her indistinct philtrum, lip shape and upturned nose , however I have been told nose is common in black backgrounds. If you have knowledge in this area, I would appreciate your thoughts
In the meantime I am re starting therapy to deal with my anxiety.
Thank you kindly