hi all firstly i am very new to mums net.
I have been trying to look for advice about my 6yr old son, recently he has been showing more signs of the possible ASD although school aren't very good at spotting the sign unless i ask them specific Qs.
my son was born premature and had a few health problems. he was meeting all his milestone with flying colours but his behavior wasn't quite right. At 3 yrs old he would attack me punching kicking biting and slapping. at this point he gave me a thick lip and black eye. the reason behind this was i would allow him to have my phone. theses situation would be the very start. i would put him on to his bed for time out and to calm down but he would then take his bedroom apart. He would then throw objects at me. i informed GP that this wasn't just a faze. this has know continued but he is obviously a lot bigger and stronger now and there isn't much i can do to keep him calm when the switch goes, on the other hand he can be so attached to me that he has to do everything with me. He has never been comfortable in loud unfamiliar or crowded places, he would as a toddler cover his ears and hide his face behind his trusted magic nanny blanket ( his words). know he has started school he only has 2 friends and if they don't want to play with him. he will go and sit alone on a so called "friendship bench" but because he struggles with strangers he wont communicate with them. its heart breaking to know he is feeling so isolated at a place where he should be feeling safe and comfortable but i know he isn't as he often tells me he doesn't like school because hes on his own alot and it makes him feel sad.
i have taken him to the GP who has made a referral but she asked for a report from the school which i know i will have to fight for. ( not got the best relationship with school because of there lack of communication with me) .
has anyone else been through similar experiences. my GP has said she thinks its more ASD than ADHD but to be honest said he fits both categories so i'm a little confused. he does have very hyper moments where he becomes over excited at small things. he is very chatty to his siblings and family but not other children, he struggle to understand that if i'm talking he should listen. talks over people all the time about himself and what he wants to do or is doing. he doesn't understand when its someone else turn to talk. he struggle to see emotion or show it majority of the time. if he hurts me and i cry he shows no emotion and just walks away or continues to shout or hit out. i'm at a total loss at the moment and just want to help him but when you cant get to the route of the problem all i seem to do is make things worse. any advice or help would be very much appreciated.
Thank you in advance cora