Angry Violent Hyperactive 6year old

[carolyn1989]

hello there i have 2 children DD(11) and DS (6) i love them both more than anything in the world but some things need to change! i have been having trouble with DS sad he can be such a loving boy from time to time but most of the time he is angry,violent and rude! there isn't a day that goes by where he dosent hurt his older sister, my boy frightens me! he gets very physical if things dont go his way for example my daughter is at that age where she would just stay in her room she asked me one day if she could go upstairs to watch telly... not a problem so of she went 5mins later i heard the biggest scream i ran upstairs and i witnessed my 6year old punching the hell out of her head whilst she was curled up in a ball against her wardrobe i couldn't believe my eyes where on earth is this all stemming from, of course he denies it all!!! i literally tread on eggs shells around him incase i say something that is offensive to him! he has even started acting out at his grandparents threatening to hurt grandma even threatened ti hurt grandmas dog!! i just want my loving nice boy back.....its like all of a sudden he hits 10! and cannot bring himself back down to 1... he gets very hypoactive to the point where i cannot control him! the violence has got to stop if he is very angry and shouting sometimes he cant find his worlds so he just swears really bad sad i surely cannot be the only one going through this my partner well he dosent get to see this side to him much as he works 14hour days sometimes all weekend too if im honest im glad when i go to work so i can have peace ( i know that sounds bad sad i just dont know what to do anymore he dosent care who he is with or where!! he will act up whenever wherever he scares me sometimes i cant even go places anymore because i am so scared on how he will be as i get embarrassed as i cant control him, the violence has got to stop! he often gets mad for no reason or for something so small and petty (Ava has her channel on or Ava has more milk than me) hes broken numerous amounts of my furniture in rage!! they get everything from me if not more!! i just dont see what his issue is does he have a medical problem i have not got to the doctors as i need enough evidence ive wrote every outburst down in my book please does anyone have any advice? thank you

she always goes up to her bedroom sad i feel for her dont get me wrong they can play so nicely together but most of the time he gets mad because he cant get his won way its getting so silly for example ( nathaniel go get your pyjamas , he will then go no! and get his sister to get them its like he thinks he is the boss of the house it dosent help that my partner works so much and dosent see what he is like most times! right now they are both colouring nicely together which to be honest wont last long for much longer, we had a outburst yesterday of him not getting his won way with his sister and next doors 2 girls so he threw a paddy and got really nasty calling them all little idiots and trying to grab them by the arms i keep saying time and time again it is not acceptable to hurt anyone and certainly not ok to hurt girls his answer 'ill do what i want if i want to hurt girls i can' everything is so wrong i hate to bring this up but in my old relationship i was abused by a man for 11months and swore if i ever had a son i would try my best to bring him up right and to treat women with respect etc but i feel like im failing sad im going to book a appointment with the GP but if im honest im scared im going to thobbed of as alot of people use adhd/autism alot in the uk to just put a label on their naughty kids i dont want a easy life (well i do abit) but i just want to help my son i dont want him to be a evil boy that everyone will hate....he is 6 and still has to wear pull ups for bed we have tried to persevere but every morning he is wet through maybe all this is linked he dosent eat properly either he has what he wants when he wants!! he would rather eat crap like sandwiches etc dosent eat veg fruit (only apple) hardly likes anything and isnt willing to try anything new im running out of ideas my friends have mentioned cannot i try some type of herbal energy to calm him down with his anger maybe it will work maybe not what are you thoughts?

Hi there! Reading your story is so like my own...it's scary. My son also 6 is displaying a lot of what your boy is... My Nathan's violence levels aren't that high...yet! But like you I'm scared of what the future will bring.. like you I was in a bad relationship, but sadly my kids dad died when I was pregnant with my boy (his sister was 16 months old at the time, 2 year age gap with my kids) then another bad relationship followed when my boy was 2 to 3 years old. So both my kids have witnessed things I'd rather they hadn't. 😪 my boy also has the wet night issues, picky with food to a degree (will eat what and when he wants and prefers junk food over propper meals), thankfully he loves fruit and veg so that's not an issue. I actually sat last night for the first time and wrote down everything that concerns me and I was shocked at how negative it read. I've hidden it away so my boy doesn't find it. He already thinks I hate him cause he's always getting told off for violence, nasty behaviour or attitude and addiction to the internet (YouTube and games). If he saw that he'd be heartbroken cause when he wants to be he can be so kind helpful caring ect but the other side of him scares me. His dad predicted he would b a nightmare before he died and wasn't wrong.. as a single mum I feel like a complete failure but everyone else says I'm doing an amazing job but I'm not feeling it...

Have you been to doctors yet? Could u share your experience with them if you have... I'm at my wits end.

Best wishes

I’m going through the exact same. I wish there was something like adhd or autism to give me some answers. I’m scared that he’s just ‘naughty’ he used to be such a lovely boy. I’m dact he was an angel until about 2. Everyone adored him. It breaks my heart so say it but I’m starting to really dislike him. He really is quite horrible. I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel like anybody can help.

Sounds like my 7 year old it's so hard feel like his behaviour is consuming my life so erratic he cannot comprehend short term. Consequences . In the one hand he's mature living and kind but when things don't go his way / it's like Jekyll and Hyde .