Sorry if this is a bit long but don't want to miss anything out. When she was born she had shoulder dystopia and was stuck until the mw hit the emergency button and I was given an episiotomy and they managed to get her out and revive her. I'm convinced her birth has something to do with how she is now.
She's very argumentative and aggressive towards anyone who challenges her behaviour. She can be rude, cheeky and confrontational. When she's hyped up there's no reasoning with her and it's like she has to let what ever it is ride it self out. She's difficult to speak to and can ramble on about nothing in particular and gets upset if asked to return to the Subject in hand. I dread picking her up because at least 1-2 times a week the teacher needs to have a word about her behaviour (talks over classmates, screams about the unfairness of it all if things arent going her way, etc) I think because of this she gets left out of party invitations (only 2 invites during the whole of school so far and she has never been called up for any kind of award at assembly) 
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My mum and mil won't ever take her anywhere alone as they can't cope with her whining and my closest friend told me she thinks she might need "checking out" (never thought of that) So consequently we never get a break.
dh works and I'm a sahm (though am looking for work again) I had t oo quit my last full time job as she got even worse as I was gone before she got up and home about 30 mins before bed so she became even more clingy. She has never slept properly. Up til she was 6 She would wake 2-3 times a night and come to wake us to say she couldn't sleep, needed food/water/hug or she had a sore tummy/head/toenail etc. She did settle a bit by going to bed later and only waking around 3 or 4 to update us on her sleep status. This 6 weeks is a nightmare at the moment. She's not sleeping during the night at all. She's waking everyone up. She has a brother and sister. Ds came into our room in tears last week begging us to do something as she burst into his room to find something. When he told her she woke him and to leave she hit him. She shares with her sister and won't compromise. She needs a fan, nightlight, bedroom door open si she can see the landing light etc. This extra noise and light keeps dd1 from getting proper rest.
dh is really struggling with his sleep. The constant visits at night are getting him down and he's so grumpy. We've barely had sex as even if we lock the door she will hammer on it until the whole family is awake. I'm at my wits end . Every appointment with the gp I'm just fobbed off. Its as if they think I'm trying to find a reason/medical condition rather than just face facts that she's just a naughty and wilful child who will grow up eventually.
I love her so much and it hurts me to see her like this. She's a fantastic artist and makes lovely pictures for those she loves. My next door neighbour says she's so lovely and kind to her (younger) children. Maybe it's just me. When we're alone she's fine(ish). I just want her to be happy but really worried that she's going to grow into an adult who is ignored by people when possibly she can't help it. So sorry for the length again. Is anyone else in a similar position please?