Thank you for your question. I am truly sorry you had to go through all the bureaucracy to get your child into school. I believe your council should have compensated you for all your troubles. It’s mad!
About the “fight” it belong to the family. I finally got my dream job, but it was too demanding, my husband was non-supportive at first, and we had many issues regarding preparing our child for these exams, he changed after seeing how confident our child became.
We didn’t do enough during Covid, and I took everything I had to help my child succeed, on top of my full time job that required me working more than the 100%. This effort took a long time because of vocabulary. Once you have a decent lexicon, it’s easier to express yourself better. There were so many words I didn’t fully grasped, therefore we always checked in the dictionary, some of the words need to be joined by a specific article to make sense, I wasn’t sure of which all the time. I had to make sure my child could remember them, use them in sentences and the sentences we wrote were not always right, so that was the internal fight I had with myself, the inability of moving faster, my child’s ability and interest to learn, pressure at work… it was draining. I know I was not the first and won’t be the last mother having to go through this experience, which makes me think, how “we” (women) can we ever achieve equality like that? We as mothers have to fight many good fights to support our children (tomorrow’s citizens), and it’s really dramatic, how little support the structure (government, society) provides to us. We deserve better.
Now, the government published last month there will be a reform in education by 2028, this includes all areas and it’s supposed to be ambitious… however what will be done to support the children who are at school today?, how will the new curriculum be implemented? How will this affect children?
Going back to your question, we live outside the catchment areas of any grammar schools nearby, so could not apply… another stress I couldn’t foresee before we moved to our house.