Self-employed mum, pregnant and fed up

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I've been running my own business (with my now husband) for nearly 15 years. DD is two and we're expecting our second baby in the summer. I'm fed up with the long hours and financial pressures (the business is viable but often barely and so we struggle along). We have a staff team of c.10 employees. I ended up working for large chunks of mat leave with my first and and have been back at work 5 days a week since Jan 2020. I'm just not sure I can hack it any more. This week one of the team told me my negativity is dragging down morale and my OH frequently criticises my bad attitude and poor performance. I used to work 80-90 hours a week bit I just can't do it now and feel like I have no control. I have always struggled with staff management and I take criticism very personally. I guess I'd just like to hear from others in a similar position for moral support. I love the business on the one hand, I've given most of my adult life to it, bit I wonder if it's time to walk away and focus on my children and my emotional and mental health.

Sounds like it OP. Can you temporarily promote someone to take your role? With the view to take at least a year out. Or even just reduced hours?

It's not worth your mental and physical health.

Are you and your husband a 50/50 split? It just sounds more like he's your employer than that it is your business too. He should not be bad mouthing you to your staff and they should not be criticising you.
If the business is barely viable but you have 10 members of staff, it's time to reassess the business. It should not have ten members of staff but still require you to work 80-90 hours a week to just about keep going.
I would personally take a step back. Sometimes you can't see the wood for the trees. I had two weeks off from my business last year as I needed to work out my next steps and I couldn't while I was right in the thick of it. You may find doing the same helps you.

If you have 10 members of staff, you have been working such long hours and the business is still barely viable I think you need to reassess what you are doing
After 15 years of struggling it might be time to stop

This week one of the team told me my negativity is dragging down morale and my OH frequently criticises my bad attitude and poor performance Feedback is not a bad thing and being told your negativity is dragging down morale is something you should address and you should be grateful an employee has shared this with you and consider how you fix this - expectations of you seem out of line with what you can deliver at the moment - you need to have an honest chat with your dh and come up with a plan that will give both of you the balance you need.