To be put off group by weigh in person

[Mindovermatter45]

Hi,

I've been doing SW of and on for years, where I don't have scales myself and did use to enjoy hearing tips from fellow dieters.

I'm just curious how other sw members were treated at the scales returning after Christmas / short break away from it. Our consultant always encourages you not to rejoin as new member but lets you off all the back fees and doesn't seem to have any rules in place how long you can be away from group until it is mandatory to restart. (I 100% accept the rules say 2 weeks back fees at minimum could have been payable)

My own experience has been I'd stopped going in October (absence never got followed up by the consultant) I decided not to return before Christmas and look insincere and was always mindful of that extra weight on scales coming back to hurt the consultant so was trying to get it down on my own; so thought I'd return in new year when generally crowds of people sign up and you don't specifically have all that usual go round the room nonsense of people who have and haven't put on for once.

I really cannot believe every single member of sw didn't put on at all this Christmas so thought I'd be in goodish company at the ideal time of year for new beginnings and all that, totally put off when I got to the scales, I'd put on weight as fully expected and deserved (but not as bad even as I'd expected) but what the weigh person proceeded to do next has kind of put me off - even though I'd seen my weight on the scales monitor for myself they insisted on showing me on the ipad they work off in front of the queue waiting to weigh, I don't know it just felt deeply wrong with that person not being the consultant and it was being written into my book anyhow, I felt so embarrassed I just couldn't bare to stay (later in the day after checking back my book this time last year I was actually half a stone heavier even with a weight gain this time round so a win from the long term so what was their problem)

I just wonder if this is usual behaviour? isn't it risky if someone gets frustrated at the weigh persons attitude?
Should I have demanded really to restart as new?

Also I'm wondering how does a long term member fill their consultant in on changes in life - eg, I don't really want to be sat in a very public group admitting I'm on hrt/that time of life which could 'subjectively or not' contribute to a weight gain) yet you only fill in a form on starting.

I just feel really sad if the easiest way in avoiding the situation was as a new member or try to have gone to another group completely.

Sounds shitty and I'd definitely raise it with the consultant. The weigh in people aren't supposed to comment/react.

Did everyone in the queue see your weight on her iPad?

I've been doing SW of and on for years,

Have a think about that. It will solve your issue of the group set up when you realise you are wasting your money. This plan is not sustainable. It only serves to see you fail so you keep going back.

I’m sorry this was your experience and I would complain to the Consultant.

I weigh in for our group and I am scrupulous about not mentioning weight other than to say how much is lost (or not) it’s not difficult and I would hate for my weight to be revealed so I won’t do it to other people.

Your group sounds very disorganised @Mindovermatter45

My consultant runs four groups, 2 on Wednesday and 2 on Saturday, and shes very experienced and professional

We dont get let off with fees thats for sure. Indeed I weighed in one week, went above target , and the following week I had to weigh in, and then because I was still over then go and pay

I can also assure you that none of us give two hoots if as a collective group gain effects her earnings, thats nothing to do with us. Indeed Saturday after Christmas there was just one person ( out of around 20 ) who had lost

Our group, the girls who weigh us do so quietly, then we go and tell the world lol. We are a friendly bunch and we laugh and joke and take the pee , but we are fiercely supportive

Theres a good few of us of a certain age and we talk about our struggles during the menopause , I often bemoan that I have rigidly stuck to plan and lost a measly pound, and some young un only there a week, half a stone off :) So yes we are all open about our struggles

Personally if I was you, not comfortable with that group but still wanted to attend a group - find another one. I live very rural with a tiny population, and there is a SW group every day of the week within 10 miles of my house

I’m struggling to understand what they did wrong. Is it that other people could see your weight?

Same as all diets really!

This is where people go wrong, they treat it as a diet. They go along, think I need to lose 2 stone, do so, and leave - even though its free to attend. And once they leave they go back to eating the way they did before "the diet" , which is why diets dont work

Treat SW the way is should be treated, as in learning how to eat a healthy balanced diet that fills you so you arent spending the day snacking , a way of eating that you have to do forever - and it works

This is why I still go, even though Ive been at target for 15 months. I dont want the weight back, so I pop along and weigh in and stay for group . Its an hour a week and it keeps me on track

The woman who weighs at my group pulls a judgy face if you've got a big gain after a holiday. Just rude, and definitely puts me off!