What is your SW consultant like? Mine is- MEH

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I just wonder if I perhaps have a very poor SW consultant so wanted to compare as to what yours are like.

Mine barely speaks, barely smiles, gives me no support or input. So I’m basically paying to get weighed.

For example today:
I walk into the empty church hall. She is sat behind the paying till.
Me: morning! How are you.
Her: fine thanks.
Me: (puts card in) ooh I’ve had a week off so I’m dreading this
Her: (silence)
Me: (puts card into the weighing side of the desk)
Her: step on
Me: (steps on)
Her: 3 pound on
Me: oh no eeek. I will try had this week.
Her: silence.
Me: I leave and that’s that. Not even a bye.

I will hear nothing again until next week which will be a similar exchange of her being the most miserable person that ever lived.

What’s your consultant like? Do I have a bad one? Am I expecting too much?

That is so poor. Try a different group

Mine just text me (middle of the weigh in week) to see how I am getting on.
Yours sounds terrible.
Personally wouldn't give them another penny.
Many meetings.. find another one!

I had heard they are supposed to text mid week!
Ok I am definitely going to swap groups then.
I am 5 weeks in and she’s just so miserable.
Yet her Facebook adverts- you would think she’s the most enthusiastic person on earth.

That’s shockingly rude in terms of basic manners when interacting with anybody let alone in a situation where she’s supposed to be supporting you and you’re paying for her services!

If it’s a one off I’d cut her some slack, she could be struggling etc. If it’s consistent I’d contact head office and also change groups.

It’s definitely not a one off. For the 5 times I’ve been there I walk out mad that she had such bad manners. Especially as I am the exact opposite and I try to be very cheery to people wether I’m sad or not.

I have found another group to swap to that runs the same time

My old consultant was like that - no support or supportive texts. Couldn’t even be bothered to reply to the ones I sent!
So I changed groups and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made!

Hope you get on better with the other group!

I don't have a consultant because I'm doing SW online, but I do Zoom calls with the online team and listen to the SW podcast and the presenters/consultants are cheery and motivating. I think that really helps.

Mine is amazing although it took me a couple of groups to find her, I've recently been quite poorly (two week emergency hospital admission then invasive outpatient treatment) whilst in the middle of a countdown. I told her just to put me as missed and she's managed to get my countdown suspended until I'm ready to go back.

She's also been in touch just to see how I'm getting on. I love her!!

Definitely move. I had a very aloof, cliquey one and then moved. Now, mine who is 10 mjns further drive away is lovely

I like mine, she's super friendly and warm and remembers my name. Which surprises me as I'm quiet and she runs about 8 groups (there's about 30 who stay at my group so god knows how many total). But she'd never texted me!

I dislike mine because she ends every sentence with ‘Does that make sense?’

She talks to us as if we are children.
This week, I counted and she said it 8 times in 20 minutes 🤦‍♀️

I miss my old consultant, but I'm hours away from there now. Most meetings descended into hysterics and it was more like AA with everyone admitting alcohol intake was how they'd used syns etc. It was a very fun group of ladies.

The one I go to (but not for a few months) here is full of "Ya know wot I meeeeeen" and I hate hate hate her voice. But that's my problem, not hers as she has 6 classes every Thursday! Each class I go to though is silent, with only her few favourites in each one piping up (they try to take over and it's awful).

However, you get a very perky greeting and she always engages before the class - OP, yours sounds awful.

I'm going to go back to SW, but m looking for a new class to get instead.