Realistic target setting..

[dilly123]

Background... millionth time trying to lose weight.. I've lost over 4.5 stone but it's taken me 2 & half years.. few bumps & plateaus along the road.. the last stone & half has taken a year.. Last re-start I set my target at 10.5 stone which is still quite high for my 5 ft 5" frame but for my age (mid-40's) after 3 children & seeing if it took me so long to get there I felt it was a realistic target... however having reached it I feel it's not low enough & actually feel embarrassed & like a fraud saying I'm at target.. I know as a life long yo-yo dieter & sufferer of eating disorders & low self esteem I'll never feel happy in my own skin but should it be lower??

I think I could push it to another half stone lower & maintain it.. I thought getting to this weight (my lowest in 20 years) I'd be euphoric but I'm not..

Any similar people or target stories appreciated please

Thank you

My target is 11st after a 4.5st weight loss and I'm 5ft 1. I maybe don't like the way I look at times in no clothes but my shape with the right clothes is what I do like. But it's always in the back of my head that maybe I should be lighter.

Guess it's a question of idealism v's realism 🤣

Always said I'd never set out to get a bikini body & in reality after large weight gain, 3 children, funny caesarean scar belly & then weight loss the reality is only surgery can give me the body I'd feel confident with.. (keep doing the lottery then)

Thank you

My Consultant advises members to get to the weight at which they feel happy ( health and wellbeing-wise, feeling good in clothes, etc),then to set target at three pounds below that weight.
So, even at the top of target, you still feel good.
My target, at just over 5 feet 5, is 9st 9lbs, and I feel better at the lower end of target range.
However, when I read slimming success stories in the SW magazine, some members of the same height weigh a lot more or a lot less than I do, and people carry fat and weight on different areas of their bodies; we can't choose how our weight is distributed!
It's very much an individual choice.
You could set your target at 7 pounds lower ( the least for which you can reset), and see how you feel when you get there.