5 nights to get this sussed .....

[angelboysmummy]

my 14 month DD is still demand feeding in night, she never goes for more than 2 hours without waking. i know its probably my fault due to me latching her on when younger all the time but this was so DS (5) could have good sleep as he is a very light sleeper so would wake at her crying if it was prolonged. Anyway at end of month DH is taking DS on hols for 5 nights so i can get DD out of her behaviour.

My questions are for anyone who has done this successfully are: on night one after she has gone to bed shall i just refuse any more feeds and offer her cup of water?

Also will this even work when she is still refusing any other form of milk?

thanks in advance for any help

my friend weaned her DS off night feeds by getting her DH to resettle every time he woke up. It took 6 nights and a lot of crying but night 7 he was sleeping through. She still feeds him at the start of the night and in the morning, plus on demand.

thanks igglybuff unfortunately DH next to useless when trying to settle a crying baby which is why he is going away.

anybody have any other tips pleeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaasssssssssssseeeeeeeeee

I've literally just started doing this with dd, 13 months and so far she is sleeping a lot better than she has been. She was permanantly latched on and I just had enough, it was making me sore, we were both tired from not going into a deep sleep. The first night she kicked off but it was anger so it was easier to stick to it, if she had been upset and sobbing it would have been really hard not to feed her and settle her. She then slept for about 4-5 hours!! The next 2 nights she has been waking up about every 4-5 hours and had a bit of a moan and a paddy but only for about 5 minutes until she has just gone to sleep (in our bed) then we would wait and put her back in her cot once in a deep sleep.
I really dreaded having to do this because I was worried she would be hungry but I'm so glad I have now.

Oh and we haven't ever given her any other kind of milk, I've just been giving her water when she wakes up.

Sorry I misread your OP and thought you said DH was taking holiday to be at home

On occasion I've resettled my DS without a feed in the night - he got annoyed but did calm down and could be settled.

Buy the No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley (look on amazon). Lots of ideas, and particularly for mums who BF & co-sleep. No quick fixes, but there are some things you could start with now (i.e. before your DH goes away) and you will definitely see improvement over time. Basically about gradually reducing reliance on sucking by breaking the latch before they are asleep and building up a variety of other sleep associations (music, comfort objects, back rubs etc etc) so it doesn't always have to be boob. Won't add the finer details as all there in the book. Highly recommended. Good Luck

thanks everyone for the advice, will have a look for book now.