Support please! CC at 11mnths

[wrensmum]

HI Folks,
I've posted a few times already on this subject. I was thinking of doing cc last month but then DD's sleep got better, she had a lot of separation anxiety and it didnt feel right. Now she's waking a lot at night again, we are exhausted, my partners talking of spliting up ( again ) and I think we all need more sleep. She used to settle well in her cot, but now she just tosses, turns cries and stands up. But she does'nt cry more when I walk out of the room. I think she just feels frustrated because she is tired but cant relax, I've got back into holding her until she's very sleepy but then I think that makes her need it more through the night. It's just such a nightmare! Its going on and on and every time we think we are getting somewhere, she regresses. Anyone got some positive CC crying stories to share?

Hi what time does she go to bed? How are her day naps? Could she be overtired by bedtime so can't relax?

I've not tried CC myself but SIL has and it worked for her two (she did it at 6 and 8 months).

You mention your having problems with your partner - your DD might be picking up on something so needs more comfort? Just a thought.

There's a really big sleep regression between 9 and 11 months that we're mired in in this house too. DS is totally knackered at night but just can't switch off to fall asleep. Something to do with a big developmental shift, teething, seperation anxiety and big work on movement/language depending on baby's interests. For DS it's crawling (late) and talking (early). He used to go to sleep relatively peacefully but last night was a two hour spectacular of stress and weeping for all. There's some threads on it in the sleep topic if you do a search... including one in the current list... which has something to do with a 9 month old in the title.
Unfortunately from what I gather from the info on that thread it's also known as a 'blackout' period for sleep training because right now it's much harder to implement and less likely to work.
We're doing co-sleeping, rocking, feeding to sleep the works here. Anything to get some kip! Remember 'this too shall pass ...'

poppet I think we're in that phase now. DS, nearly 9 months, takes ages to get to sleep. Tonight he was singing himself to sleep but didn't work so had to rock him. It was very cute but I'm tired as lots of night waking at the mo!

Ok, so hold off on the CC..
Igglyuff, her naps are pretty good, wakes around 6ish, 1 1/2 hr nap around 9ish - and then another hour in the afternoon, she's always awake before 4 and bedtime is 7ish, it normally takes her 15 mins to fall asleep, I do abit of walking out when she starts rolling over and standing up, and sometimes pick her up and hold her if she's getting wound up or really upset. And rub her back as she drops off. I just find if she falls asleep in her cot, she tends to find it easier to fall back to sleep in the night. But we get up to sooth her 5 time or more at the mo and my partner is doing most of it. I do think she is picking up on the tension, but then its a chicken and egg situation... ohhhhh my. Do you think her nap times sound ok?

Is there the chance that the naps might need tweaking so she's tired enough at night time? Could you try a shorter morning nap of 45 mins, then another nap after lunch time which should be a longer one. It might take a few days to get there though.

Also maybe you can take the nights in shifts or alternate nights? That way you each get enough sleep and can tackle the tension.

Has she just started standing up? Also does she have a lovey/toy or something which might help her to feel more secure?

You said that she sleeps better if she falls asleep in her cot - maybe you can do some gentle sleep training by not taking her out of the cot once she's down for the night. Or you could try pick up put down (didn't work for my DS at 6 months but others have had success). Basically put down to sleep, if she gets upset, pick her up and soothe but put down before she falls asleep. It might take a while the first night - say 90 mins or so (!) but will get progressively shorter and hopefully take 3 or 4 nights.

OK. So Pu-PD and no soothing when she's in her cot, Just sit there and let her play and stand up etc...? Have experimented with the naps and it just never seems to work having and afternoon nap, she sleeps longer in the morning, Maybe need to try again! Thanks for suggestions.

You can soothe when you pick up so it's not too hard on your DD? When DH did it with DS, he stepped away from the cot when putting and said goodnight. Then if DS got upset he'd pick him up and soothe him.