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9mth DD stopped settling to sleep

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everythingisorange · 12/06/2010 21:05

My 9mth DD used to take 10 minutes to go to sleep, during the day and at bedtime, after being put into her cot awake.
Now she can stand up in her cot she takes up to 2 hours to go to sleep prefering to sit, stand, babble or cry.
She is now getting totally exhausted and it seems like a downward cycle.
Any help would be appreciated

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duende · 12/06/2010 21:14

my DS is 10 months old and has been the same for over a week now
I would also like to hear from people who have been there! Another problem we have is that DS is now waking lots and lots at night. Sometimes every ten minutes, I am absolutely shattered.

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everythingisorange · 12/06/2010 21:21

duende - Oh gosh, poor you. I guess I shouldn't complain, DD is currently still sleeping until 5.30am which is not too bad in the grand scheme of things.
She's finally just dropped off after being put to bed at 7pm so 2hrs 20mins tonight.

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AppleAndBlackberry · 13/06/2010 19:09

Me too, mine is 10 months and takes 2 hours to get to sleep unless I breastfeed her and I really want to give up because I'm pregnant again and really tired . Am very lucky that she sleeps through once asleep though.

AppleAndBlackberry · 13/06/2010 19:09

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everythingisorange · 13/06/2010 20:12

Seems theres a few of us in the same position but no answers, does this mean that no-one has found a solution that might work. I have to say my DD has dropped off within 1/2 hour of being put down tonight which is a vast improvement on the past 2 weeks so maybe they soon grow out of it once they get used to being able to stand up.

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duende · 13/06/2010 20:23

well, we seem to have had some progress here too. From 1.5 hours at his worst, down to about half an hour in the last couple of days. (I sooooo hope I don't jinx it...!) He has been going down for naps better as well.
Now we just need to sort out the nights!

shufflebum · 13/06/2010 21:49

Was going to post about the very same thing except my DS is 14 months and has been like this for about 3 months (sorry folks! )
We average about 1hr 30 mins although was 50 minutes tonight so possibly progress...?

He has a good bedtime routine although has now decided he hates the bath but that's for another thread! I put him into his cot awake, stroke his back and shush him, if he stands up I lay him back down again and say time for sleep. I do this 4 times and then leave the room, he cries and I wait 1 minute (can't face any longer then go back in and resettle. Repeat ad infinitum until asleep!
I'm too soft for CC but would love another solution!

belindarose · 14/06/2010 09:33

I'm in 10 month sleep hell too. DD has now decided not to nap either and nothing that used to work helps now. I've made a sleep plan (No Cry Sleep Solution) and after 2 days of trying to follow it had the worst night ever last night! Wakings every hour and then up at 5:30 am for the day! She does settle to sleep beautifully at bedtime though.
I'm going to try co-sleeping for a while, in the hopes of improving night sleep to get better naps and break the cycle. Also going to use the sling more in the day to try and get longer naps. What's anyone else trying?

shufflebum · 14/06/2010 14:05

I'm relatively lucky in that we don't have a fight with his after lunch nap. After about 10 minutes he's out for about 2 hours (hence why I'm on here ) he also does sleep until 7am most mornings so I guess I should be grateful for that! It's awful when they wake up silly early.

AppleAndBlackberry · 14/06/2010 15:34

I have ordered a Tomy starlight, but it hasn't come yet. Going to try that, posssibly with warm milk in the cot and if that doesn't work will just try to be more consistent with comforting her (i.e. not getting her out of the cot). Naps are ok at the moment - I keep her up til after lunch and then she's really tired so she goes down with only a few minutes fuss (and I go to bed too!).

AngelDog · 14/06/2010 20:46

Sounds like the 8/9 month sleep regression - see here, here and here. It will pass, but it's pretty horrible in the mean time.

shufflebum, there is a 13 month ish regression too - have a look at the second link above.

shufflebum · 14/06/2010 22:40

Thanks AngelDog that's really interesting stuff!
All was going pretty well tonight until next door's kids popped round to borrow some icing sugar and set the dogs off barking! Hope others have had better luck.

AppleAndBlackberry · 15/06/2010 10:09

Last night was much better for us, just half an hour! Fed before the bath and then got DH to do the whole bedtime routine so I think she wasn't expecting to be fed and he just patted her when she cried. Hope tonight is the same! How are the rest of you doing?

duende · 15/06/2010 11:47

we are doing much better on the settling to sleep front but still horrendous with night wakings.
last night he went to sleep at 7, fell asleep in his cot. at 11 he started waking and woke crying pretty much every 15-20 minutes until just after 2am when I gave him calprofen. he then slept until 6:30.

he doesn't seem in any pain or discomfort during the day so I'm really confused

shufflebum · 15/06/2010 21:06

For some reason teething pain does seem to be worse at sleep time, I think it's because they are less distracted so have time to think about it maybe?
After gaily saying on here yesterday that we don't have trouble with his naps today he screamed blue murder and only had about 45 minutes of fitful sleep compared to his normal 2 hours. However as a trade off he went down in half an hour tonight! So, now not sure if I should restrict his afternoon naps so he goes down easier at night, will try it tomorrow and report back!

Poppet45 · 15/06/2010 21:26

Me, me I'm in sleep hell too. DS is 10 months tomorrow and while he's never been much cop at self settling or sleeping through once he moved from a dreamy hammock to a cot. It got even worse during the infamous four month (ha) sleep regression but recently had been down to two quick wakings and he was easy to put down and back to sleep with either a feed or a couple of pats and no tears. Now it's like he's wired.
From what those links say it's very developmental and any sleep training done now is liable to be more difficult and less successful. So after a six waking special on Monday we moved him into our bed. Think we'll just ride it out.
Of course the $64,000 question is how long does this regression take. Please god not as long as the four month crapfest.

duende · 15/06/2010 21:46

Poppet45, I'm terrified after reading that there is also a 13 month sleep regression. Does this basically mean about 4 months of sleep hell???

Shufflebum, after gaily saying on here we were doing better on the self settling front, I had to rock DS to sleep tonight. And he only had one nap today and then was awake from 11.15 until 7pm!

kveta · 15/06/2010 21:54

we're here too - 8.5 month old has stopped settling to sleep, and started waking at 4.30am then refusing to go back to sleep - it's very wearing! glad to hear we're not alone!

shufflebum · 15/06/2010 22:01

You are never alone on MN! Repeat after me "it's just a phase"
Night all

belindarose · 18/06/2010 10:50

Any improvements, anyone? I'm being very, very tentative about saying this, but DD is having a decent morning nap IN HER COT for the third day in a row! I just decided that things couldn't get any worse than the no naps at all she'd had on Tuesday (not even in the sling or car), so I went for the cot option. Wednesday it was only 45 minutes, but still better than previously, yesterday was 2 1/12 hours (albeit after 1 hour of standing up in cot every time I laid her down!) and this morning has been 1 1/2 hours so far with NO FUSS at all! The nights haven't been so great, and I co-slept with her Tues and Wed (she has a cold so struggling to use her thumb to sleep) but last night was best in ages - only one night feed.
I know it's early days, but even 3 days of napping has made me feel better about it all. Just wanted to share to raise your hopes.

shufflebum · 18/06/2010 14:41

Great news Belinda. I'm alawys worried about posting as whenever I do about some thing good happening it all goes tits up!
I have kind of gone back a bit in my way of getting DS to sleep, I cuddle him for a lot longer in the chair once he's had his milk and brushed teeth and then dont put him in his cot till he's really sleepy then I do the backbreaking leaning over with one hand on his back and one on his tummy until he falls asleep. It's what we used to do and it works so maybe with time I will be able to just put him down and stand there and then eventually put him down and leave while he's awake. That's the plan anyway, else I'll still be leaning over his bed when he's at high school going shhhhhhh, shhhhhh

MustHaveaVeryShortMemory · 23/06/2010 20:32

Its so reassuring to see all your posts. DD is 10 months, used to self settle (where did we go wrong) now will stand and scream for up to 2 hours. Tonight was 90 minutes. I just feel like everyone I speak to has a baby that sleeps from 7-7 no problems. I planned to leave her to cry tonight but after about 5 minutes of blood curdling screaming dh went back in and cuddled her. To be honest I was quite relieved. The crying is so stressful. Well good luck everyone who has made some progress.

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