DS2 is 9mo, and we've slipped into the habit of feeding to sleep for his daytime naps. He used to be good at settling himself - he found his thumb at 3 months, and after that could get himself off to sleep, just took a bit of cuddling and singing till he stuck his thumb in.
Then around 7 months he got an ear infection, followed by a nasty cold, throw in sprouting a few teeth plus changing his sleep pattern from 3 or 4 naps to 1 or 2 naps, and now we're feeding to sleep every time.
I have tried not feeding - today he started getting sleepy (yawning, bit grizzly) at about 11.20, so I changed him, took him upstairs, chatted to him gently as I closed the curtains, put him in his grobag, gave him a cuddle, put him in the cot. He was fine and smily. I pottered about, left the room briefly. He grizzled, so I went back in. He wasn't looking really sleepy, so I read to him for a bit. Then he started grizzling and rubbing his eyes, so I sang to him. He was rubbing his eyes more and started flailing a bit, and then started full on crying. So I picked him up for a cuddle. But he didn't stop crying, and he was fighting against me holding him. After a couple of minutes I felt really bad about letting him cry when it's so easy to soothe him. So I fed him - he had a decent feed on one side and fell asleep. I put him back in his cot - he didn't stir at all. This all took about half an hour.
So - my method was a complete failure. (Not the first time I've tried, it always seems to end with him crying inconsolably, without any real build up to that point.) Anyone got a better method?