We were holding 11mo to go to sleep, but now we can't put her down!

[KiBe]

We did hold her or bf to sleep, but just the past few days she has been waking when we've tried to put her down. As soon as she hits the cot she's awake and screaming.

I do end up cosleeping with her a lot, after a good spell of baby whisperer and not having to do that. Somewhere along the way we lost that, a combination of my partner holding her to sleep where I could actually put her in the cot for naps and a lot of the time she would just go to sleep (i would just hold her until drowsy and place her down soothing her).

My partner has been trying to put her to bed for an hour now and she's just yelling her head off, i may have to go up and just cosleep but this is not a solution! Anyone else had this and was it temporary or are we going to have to quickly find a sleep solution?

Have you tried putting a T-shirt in her cot? I used to hang it over the rails for my DD and it worked like a charm.

Failing that then have you thought about controlled crying? It takes ALOT of work and a huge amount of willpower, but gradually I found it worked. Eventually.

I was wondering why co-sleeping isn't a solution... it does often tend to make for an easy night's rest for all concerned and is so wonderfully safe and comforting.

People are always telling me that controlled crying does 'work' but I have never fancied it - it seems too cruel. When my DS wouldn't sleep on his own I used to tie him to my tummy in a sling and carry on as usual - worked for me but suppose it might not work for everyone.

Sounds like my little man, We have co-slept but again not ideal.
Last nite only managed 6hrs in 3x 2hr slots

co-sleeping is great, apart from the fact i want to stay up longer than baby and she's far too active to be left in bed alone now! had to stop the day she fell out of bed, she only cried for a minute but it was awful. will try tshirt in cot, it's something people say but never actually tried it, i am stupid that way ;)

I do not like the idea of controlled crying, i could not leave her like that. My partner did attended crying last night, she did eventually pass out! and tonight i have put her down after holding her for ages, it kind of wasn't on purpose, was waiting for partner to come and do attended crying but she fell and stayed asleep!

I don't think slinging her now would work too well, 11 months she's a bit wriggley and heavy!

I sympathise wellbalanced, that's not fun

KiBe , sling might help, my DD nearly 10m altho tiddly but i just bought a connecta sling and i've managed to zonk her easily in that a few times just walking round house when she tired(get one with sleep hood), i am so pleased with it, then i slot her into cot heh heh heh, i used in emergency go to sleep situations (ie when i had enough)

we have a close baby carrier, i think it would be quite hard to get her out without waking her, will have to try something else, we have a baby bjorn somewhere that might work a bit better, like the idea of connecta sling, looks good!

Yeah baby bjorn or close carrier probably won't cut it with an older baby. You want an SSC like the connecta, a Mei Tai or a wrap. If you don't want to try the sling, perhaps taking her for a walk in her pushchair (a reclining one) or even pushing it back and forth in the house, would help? DS went through a stage of this and then he got so used to falling asleep in the pushchair that all I had to do was strap him in and walk away and he would go to sleep. Even now he will sometimes climb into it of his own accord and fall asleep!

With co-sleeping and leaving the baby while you have an evening, you can get a bed guard or two bed guards or make a barrier with pillows, she will not suffocate against them at 11 months. I have left DS alone in bed since he was about 6 months, and the only times he has fallen out are when he was far too close to the edge in the first place. I used to check him often and move him if he came too close to the edge too. In fact, he had a 3-sided cot we attached to the bed (I just butchered a normal cot) and I used to feed him to sleep on the cot side of the bed then leave him in or very near to the cot, he would have had to wriggle very far to fall off the opposite side of the bed. I still stay with him until he falls asleep, though I know he can get off the bed safely now.

Another solution is to put a single mattress on the floor in her bedroom, you will need a single mattress for when she goes into a bed anyway, so why not get it now. This has the same problem as co-sleeping that you have to stay with her until she is asleep but that may not be a problem to you anyway. Because the mattress is on the floor she won't hurt herself if she falls off and if you put a baby monitor in the room you will hear if she wakes up and starts crawling around. Just make sure there is a stairgate on the top of the stairs and/or her bedroom door because they seem to very suddenly learn how to open doors with no warning!

i think a barrier with pillows would have to be quite big, she's climbing over everything! bed guards wouldn't be so bad an idea but they'd still have to be pretty high for our minx i think! a big adult sized cot is what we need ;)

single matress sounds like a good idea though