How best to use DH overnight for 4 consecutive nights

[tiredpooky]

I feel like a broken woman today. Please tell me what to do.
DD 9m best nights Ive ever had were 4 dreamfeeds a night
now nights are pants. Last night was up about 8 times, first 2 feeds help her go back to sleep, then up 1h plus, restless and crawling in bed next to me, screams if i hold her down, screams in cot (in our bedroom). DH never helped much as 1. fed to sleep usually (BF) and 2. he works long hours. but he 4d off over easter. was reading NCSS book but worried that not effective use of 4n of help.
ideas gratefully received, but not controlled crying
btw is PUPD ok for 9m? or is it for younger

For 4 days, you just need DH to help you out so that you can get some time off and catch up on sleep a bit. Get his to at least get up in the mornings with her so you can have a lie in (am thinking that if she's used to being fed back to sleep, him trying to settle her may be more trouble than it's worth). If she's crawling around the bed for an hour, get him to take care if that while you sleep somewhere else.

Then try some things from NCSS too, once you're feeling a bit better. I found it really useful, but it isn't a quick fix, you could be trying various bits over a few weeks/months.

You have my deepest sympathies. I have been where you are, and had to work full-time on top of it all. Twice I went to the loo at lunch time and found my shirt was on inside out. It is HARD.

Did she just learn how to crawl? Babies practice their skills in their sleep, waking themselves up. Mine (a bit older, of course) once woke up and drew a circle on the mattress, said "circle" and went back to sleep!

9M is a big age for a bunch of things:

• separation anxiety
• teething
• gross motor development
• fine motor development
• speech development (babbling at this stage)

It sounds like you're nursing back to sleep in the night. That's what I did. I had to be up for work and I just wanted back to sleep ASAP. I suggest that you night wean, or at least try to over the Easter Weekend.

I wouldn't have taken this advice at the time, but I have hindsight. At 13 months my DS started using a word to ask to nurse and it took me until he was nearly 3 to wean him. Night weaning him at 2.5 was not fun. I had to put him on the floor next to the bed and let him yell at me for five minutes. He still asks to nurse sometimes and I weaned him just before Christmas!

Pick Up/Put Down is actually for older babies, so fine to use at 9M. It never worked for me. I would suggest you try co-sleeping while you night wean and then once she's sleeping better, if you're not doing better with co-sleeping, then move her into her cot.

Intergalactic thank you. i think u r right, i need to sleep and then approach this with ncss when i have read the book, mustnt try something i have not researched properly
Ches, thank you for your empathy and u r right of course, she is having a major motor development of pulling to stand. thanks for your shirt story at least i not working yet. i have decided i really do not want to be night feeding at 2.5y and so she is in her final 3m countdown. I will try ncss and if it fails then go to plan B I will just give her to dada or something by 12m

I just had to report i had the sleep of kings last night
just 4 night feeds with quick turnaround time, no thrashing, no crying , no crawling, and a little sweet angelic cosleeping baby beside me and I had...[sobs]....[sobs] a 3 1/4h sleep stretch ....[more sobs of joy and disbelief]....the stuff of my dreams.......
again, baby, again.......