Interpreting Dreams

[PavlovtheCat]

I had the most awful nightmare yesterday. Do you think they are just filing things away or have some deeper meaning to do with state of mind, or anything else? It involved my DD aged 3.8 and when i went to check on her, she was in the process of waking up, sitting up, and looked at me, smiled and said 'mummy! I was waiting for you' and i said 'why were you waiting for me baby girl' and she said 'because i wanted to cuddle you', put her arms around my neck (just like in my dream) and went to seep smiling. She usually is sound asleep when I check on her, and if she does wake up she is grumpy as anything.

I think dreams can be a mixture of hopes, fears, stuff from your day, stuff on your mind, etc all mixed up by the weirdness of our subconscious mind. No wonder they're odd.

Dreams can be very upsetting and impact us a lot though. I had one a week or so ago and I'm still thinking about it (it was stupid nonsense about best friend shagging bloke who broke my heart ages ago). I know why I dreamt it and I also know it's not true but it's still kicking around in my head.

belle Well, this was a drowning dream and I guess we had been near a fast flowing river that day. It is probably as simple as that isn't it? But, now, when i see a river on tv,i feel sick! I hope that passes as I am a water lover!

I used to dream that I'd forgotten I'd had DD and was on my way to the US on a plane when I suddenly remembered. In my dream, I used to panic about who could go to check on her and work out how long it would take me to get back. Madness. I used to travel a lot for work before I had her...

I hope your bad feeling passes - mine (from the weird best friend dream) is fading but still not gone. I hope yours passes quickly. I think it's a subconscious reflection of fears for safety - I suspect we all have dreams like this.

belle i had a dream that DH had an affair with a good friend of ours. I was devastated, and when I woke up, although I knew it was a dream, I was furious with him! For hours and hours. But even then, i sort of knew it was a dream deep down.

In this dream, i could not do anything to save my little girl, she fell in, her hand was slipping from mine so i jumped in with her, and the river was deep and fast. I told her to put her arms around me tightly and I did the same and I promised her i would never let go of her. I remember thinking 'at least she will not be alone' and then trying to find things to grab hold of things, get a foot hold and we went under and were dragged along. I thought to myself this cannot be real, this is not happening, then I had so many thoughts, of all those poor people before me who had drowned, and how they must have thought these things, and why am I any different to those people, why would it be any less real for me than them, and then i felt determination, i AM going to save my baby girl, it is not her time yet. but the overriding feelings that I had, that took over my very core, were terror and fear like I could not possibly ever discribe, for DD more than me. I then said to myself 'this MUST be a dream, it must it must' and i woke up with sweaty tingly palms (pins and needles type) and down my back, and I sat with DH and I cried so hard. And did not stop for a whole day almost.

I can post it now, as it is a couple of days old and not so raw. But when i saw a fast flowing river in the tv yesterday i felt the fear return.

You poor thing... That sounds horribly intense and the feelings are so very real - you're feeling the feelings you would actually feel, aren't you?

I can absolutely understand why you were so upset. You might find it cathartic to have written it down and I'm impressed that you can.

I really, really hope this clears up for you soon. I think if you're a water lover then the drowning thing would be the flipside of that (if that makes any sense?) and it really was just a subconscious reflection of your fears. To put a more positive spin on it, you know you'll be extra, extra careful around water with your DD.

My fesr is all about cars (probably because I love them and love driving so much). I'm paranoid about it and completely over-react all the time in carparks, on pavements, etc. Just thinking about it makes me feel sick and my stomach clenches with fear.

I suppose the real fear is that we can't control the entire environment for our little girls and we so want them to be safe and happy.

Hope you have a lovely day today and that the fear fades further.

Thank you for the empathy. I think it has helped to write it down, thanks for listening. DD has a life jacket. I think when we are near fast flowing rivers, she will be wearing it, she does like to run and check things out. She has no fear. In this dream, even as she was falling she was saying 'look at me!' rather than recognising the danger until she saw the look on my face.

Funny isn't it, that in dreams we can feel absolute fear and terror even if we have never experienced it in real life? Funny that we should know what it feels like.