where does your 13 week old nap in the day?

[cairnterrier]

Just wanted to see what other people are doing and get some reassurance that we're doing okay. Until earlier this week, my 13 week old DS slept in with us overnight, now he will settle in his Moses basket at night - he has refused to do this until now.

Am now a bit confused as to what to do during the day. No matter what time we go out in the day he will fall asleep in his carseat and pushchair so doesn't have a regular nap time. When we're at home, he only seems to fall asleep if he is rocked in his bouncy chair when he will stay there for his whole nap.

Is it okay to let him nap each time in his bouncy chair? Ideally I'd like to get him napping upstairs, but we're just about to switch him into a cot, so I'm working on halving my battles and just getting him settled in his cot, rather than Moses basket then switch to cot.

Also he still seems to need to feed to sleep, but as he's still so little, I'm just going with the flow with this for the time being.

Where does everyone elses LO nap in the day? Are other people still feeding to sleep?

Yes DS used to np in his bouncy chair, in his pram or carseat, or I used to feed him to sleep and he'd sleep on my lap while I went on MN etc or I would put him down on the sofa if I was staying in the room (wouldn't leave him unattended on sofa at this age)

It's best that they nap in the same room as you are, until 6 months anyway because it helps prevent against SIDS.

My DS is nearly 10 weeks and during the day sleeps downstairs in the carrycot. When he's too big for that he'll have to go in his main cot, or we might get a travel cot instead for daytime sleep.

if you want to break the cycle of feeding to sleep try feeding your DS when he wakes up from his nap so that he'll hopefully still be full when he needs to sleep again. This worked for me. My DS is 9 weeks old and generally has daytime naps in his cot (in our bedroom) unless we're out and about and he happens to fall asleep in the pushchair or car seat. As long as your DS sleeps well in his moses basket at night I think you're doing brilliantly! His daytime nap routines will change for a while yet so don't worry too much.

I remember posting something just like this when my twins were the same age. People said - they are sleeping, at the same time, for god's sake woman, make a cup of coffee and don't worry about where they are!!

DS used to sleep anywhere at that age! If we were home I put him in bed, but if we were at a friends, he'd be on the sofa, if we were out in the buggy, if in the car... etc...

I only used to let him have his pacifer when it was time to sleep though, and he still respects this at 2.4 yo, and puts it on his pillow when he wants to get up. I think it really helps him decipher when it's bed time no matter where we are. We have even taken him camping, with no mattress/cot, but if he has his pacifer and blanket he will settle anywhere.

I didn't worry about where my DTs napped until they moved into their own room (about 5 months when they were too big to share the cot in our room). Once they had their own room it seemed natural to pop them in there for naps as well as at night, although sometimes if one is being noisy I'll have them nap downstairs so they don't wake the other twin!

As other posters have said, if he's napping well done, don't worry about where he's napping!

dd is 12 weeks old and naps in her inflatable nest thing in the day, or her pushchair in the garden (70s woman that I am ) now the weather's getting better. If we're out and about she'll sleep in her pushchair happily.

She's really only just getting a noticeable pattern. She wakes up at about 9am, has feed and is awake until about midday when she starts getting so grumpy I feed her to sleep so I can get ds his lunch. DD then wakes up around 12.30 and has a play, I then give her a proper feed around 2pm. She then has a proper sleep from about 2.30/3 until 5/5.30. I then give her one boob before bathtime and then she has the other one while I'm reading ds his bedtime story and she usually goes straight to sleep in her moses basket (which is downstairs in the living room with us until we go to bed)

DS (12 weeks) sleeps in a sling on my front during the day as he sems to be unable to get to sleep any other way. At night he sleeps in a carry cot by my bed, or occasionally (if I'm desperately tired) in my bed, as I can then doze through the feeds.

I would love to be able to feed him to sleep during the day as I wouldn't be carting him around on my front for up to 8 hours a day, but unfortunately he simply refuses to feed during the day if he is feeling tired. I also stopped feeding him to sleep in the day by feeding him as soon as he wakes up, but now he is so difficult to settle, I'm rather regretting it. (Night time is a different story and he will happily feed to sleep, or almost to sleep before going into his carry cot. Odd child. Anyone want to swap babies?)

Like 1stMrsF, be very grateful that he does sleep - that is quite an achievement!

Thanks so much everyone for your kind words. I feel so much more confident to carry on doing now what I was doing.

Old fashioned mum alert!!!
Sounds cruel, but with both of my boys I had them in their own room by 3 weeks old, and moved from mosses basket (in the cot) to the cot as soon as they were too big for it.
With regards to the crying, again, sounds awful, but they were left to cry themselves to sleep right from the start (of course we checked they'd been fed, had dry nappies and had no wind). Hell for the first few nights, but paid dividends in the end of week one, they will get themselves off to sleep at night and during nap times in the morning and afternoon. Even my three year old knows that once he's in his PJ's and had his story it is time for sleep and he doesn't get out of bed.
I think every baby will fall asleep in a car or pushchair - even if they've just woken up.
My youngest is almost 5 months, and I am just beginning to stop the feeding to sleep if he wakes after usual bedtime. He only took about 10mins to settle last night when he woke, so hopefully he won't be too bad.
If you are thinking about swapping from Basket to cot, I suggest making both moves at the same time - move into cot and make all sleep times upstairs. Hopefully it will only take a few days for the new routine to settle.
good luck.