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Help please, with 11 month old sleep issues

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BrightSideOfLife · 19/03/2010 08:44

I have just learnt the hard way to sign-in before starting a new thread, as I mis-typed my password and lost my entire rambling, longwinded, original thread!!!

Help please, please, please with my 11 month DD, her night time sleeping is awful...I am so desperate!

She goes to bed fairly well at 7pm. I breastfeed her and put her down drowsy but awake. I pat her back for a few minutes and she falls asleep very quickly.

However - she wakes up at midnight and is wide-awake. She cries and cries until one of us goes to her room but relaxes the second we pick her up. As soon as we try to put her down in her cot again, she cries hysterically (Pulling herself to standing). We pick her up and calm her down, put her down...she gets hysterical and so the cycle continues. She normally eventually settles at 3:30am / 4amish.

I often resort to breastfeeding her to back to sleep out of sheer desperation. (Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't) On really bad nights we co-sleep, again out of desperation. She tends to see it as playtime!!

DH has a health condition that makes co-sleeping dangerous, especially when he is so tired so this is not a long term solution. I do not want to get into the habit of making him sleep on the couch.

I am desperate, so desperate. I am desperate enough to start controlled crying tonight - even though my instincts tell me that it is not the right thing to do and that it won't work with my DD's very strongwilled personality!

Please can someone tell me that it gets better, or give some advise, or tell me a success story. Our sleepless nights and nightly-battle-of-the-wills is seriously afecting our relationship (With DD & DH!)...I need to do SOMETHING!

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teaandcakeplease · 19/03/2010 17:04

If it always the same time, I'd try wake to sleep probably. See if that helps after a few days.

Also what naps does she take in the day? Mine sleep worse at night if they're overtired, is her routine good in the day?

My son naps at 10.30am and 2 or 3pm and goes to bed at 6.30 - 7pm. He is happy with this routine and its been this way since he was about 6 months old, he's now 14 months and still start sleeping badly at night again if he misses naps. Creature of habit clearly.

CC would work but it's hard on you and your hubby. The guilt, lack of sleep whilst doing it etc. Try wake to sleep first. Or the PUPD style of sleep training.

My son wakes due to teeth sometimes, I lather on the bonjela teething gel and leave again and often he passes out again. I'd always try teething gel first if it was me. So I knew it wasn't pain keeping them awake but that is just me I suspect.

BrightSideOfLife · 19/03/2010 18:45

thanks teaandcake, can you expain wake to sleep? I know a little about PUPD already.

Good point about the bonjela to rule out teething pain. if teething is an obvious problem we give her nurofen (Calpol seems to make her hyperactive!)

She sleeps pretty well in the day - similair to your son with a nap in the morning and afternoon, normally totalling about 2.5 or 3 hours a day. Her daytime sleeps have been a little all over the place this week, which does make me wonder...

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teaandcakeplease · 19/03/2010 18:53

to sleep thread.

Sounds like naps are good Try wake to sleep for several nights...

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