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How much daytime sleep does a 9mth old need?

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lukewarmcupoftea · 27/02/2010 13:58

Title says it all really!

Am a bit at sea with dd2 as dd1 needed more sleep than you could give her and even now sleeps more than dd2 in total each day (who says you can't have favourites...).

DD2s sleep has got worse from 3 months onwards, but not too bad, one or two night feeds and typically a 5 or 6am start to the day. However, she's just been poorly with marathon inconsoleable screaming sessions each night, and now she's better the sleep is the worst it's ever been. Eg she woke last night at 11.30 and it took over 2 hours of mostly screaming to get her back to sleep. It's been like this most nights over the last week, but the difference now is that she's not poorly anymore and clearly just wants to play, until she gets hysterically tired then can't get back to sleep. Previously I would give her a bf and she would be back asleep within 20 mins, but she's refusing to feed now and basically just wants to play/chat.

She sleeps from 6.45pm/7pm to typically 6am (with the occasional 5am shocker, or maybe 6.30am if she's had a really bad night. Naps are 20/30mins at 9.30 (20 mins if she's had a good night and slept on to gone 6.30 as otherwise she doesn't sleep well at lunch which is when dd1 sleeps), I wake her up from this nap. At 12.45 she naps for typically 1h15 to 1h30, it's unusual for her to sleep any longer.

This seems like such a small amount of daytime sleep to me (compared to dd1 who was still on 3 naps a day at this age), that I can't believe it's too much? But is it? Should I cut out the morning nap in the hope she'll sleep better at night? She always goes to sleep very happily btw, no crying, it's just the night waking that's the problem.

Sorry very long, but am too tired to try and edit! Nearly fainted this morning!

I'm thinking it's time for some CC (don't flame me please, she's screaming anyway and it was the only option left in the end last night, and probably shortened the amount of crying time if anything).

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debka · 27/02/2010 21:06

I would do CC with your DD. If she is waking just wanting to play, she needs some sleep training. As you say, she's screaming anyway, may as well train her alongside! I did CC with my DD at 3mo but she got into bad habits after a cold and a holiday at 9mo, waking and crying in the night. After 2/3 nights she was sleeping through again (11 to 12 hrs). At 9mo she was sleeping 12 hrs at night and 1hr in the am and 1 in the pm. I think 14 is about average for that age. Oh, and I also wouldn't BF any more at night, she doesn't need it and it becomes a habit. I also wouldn't cut out the morning nap, in fact, the more my DD sleeps in the day, the more she sleeps at night. If they go to bed overtired they sleep badly. Good luck!

lukewarmcupoftea · 27/02/2010 21:23

Thanks, that's what I think really, have just been putting off dealing with it whilst she settled back easily. Am also more than happy to stop bf at night, as it is the only reason why am still feeding her in the day! It's good to have some other opinions before going ahead with this again - CC worked well the once we did it with dd1, but she was a lot older, so am a bit nervous about doing it with dd2.

Going to sleep now, but dreading the night ahead. DH is away tonight as well, gulp...

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debka · 28/02/2010 21:37

Hope your night went well... The earlier you do the CC, the quicker they get it! Good luck.

lukewarmcupoftea · 01/03/2010 06:52

She's slept from 7-6 the last two nights thanks! It's too much to hope that just that one nights CC has done the job... (looks around nervously for jinx fairy). She does tend to have a couple of good nights then back to spawn of the devil, so not counting my chickens yet! I feel much happier though, in myself, just knowing that we have a plan to deal with night wakings. Strange but true.

Am also limiting her morning nap to 20 mins, so she has at least 1.5 hours at lunch. I suspect that we'll be dropping the morning nap in the next couple of months. She's just so different from dd1 I'm finding it hard to get my head round it!

Cheers

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