Are co-sleepers more secure?

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I am just wondering?

I tried co-sleeping with my DD but gave up after three months. She just settled better in her own cot (would like to add I did no sleep training). She does suck her thumb though and I worry this is because she is insecure. However if she wakes upset I always go to her and she does come to bed with me if she won't settle (although I put her back once she is asleep as I get sore and stiff lying next to her).

Do co-sleepers need less comforters (soft toys, thumbs etc)? Do they grow into more secure adults?

I havr a co-sleeper and he has a dummy too.

i think there are many facets to how secure a child is tbh, and that co-sleeping plays a part in it, but isn't the be all and end all.

i think on the whole co-sleepers with very "attached" parents do tend to be very secure yes.
but that doesn't mean that children who don't co-sleep etc etc can't be equally as secure.

if that makes sense?

i suspect most co-sleeping children do have less comforters overall, simply because they are using their parents as that comforter. so they still have it, jsut from a different source. so it doesn't mean that by sucking a thumb your dd is insecure.
I think all children by nature are fairly insecure and need certain things for comfort and stability. some have the option of using breast/mummy, some have a dummy, some use a thumb or a comfort blanket

your answer makes sense thisisyesterday. It is something I am very interested in. I am also, I admit, a bit jealous of those who co-sleep peacefully. I have just never managed it with my two (not on any long term basis)

It is such a romantic image to me, of a mother and child snuggling up to each other. I know in reality it isn't always like this but rather done out of depseration for sleep!

well yes me too. we didn't co-sleep at all with ds1, he was happy in his cot. Although I do remember having this desperate feeling of wanting him the first few nights of his life, and thiniking that he ought to be with me instead of in a cot by himself.
sadly, dp was utterly against the idea, and so i quashed my feelings.

we did co-sleep with ds2, but only out of necessity (he was quite miserable as a baby!) but i never ofund it that comfortable, unless dp was away! i think we needed a bigger bed lol

we're prob half and half with ds3. he goes down in cot, then usually ends up in with us as i fall asleep feeding him. if i happen to wake up enough during the night he sometimes goes back in cot.

i sometimes have that lovely just snuggling up[ with him thing. but more often i wake with a dead arm and just want to roll over and i can't!!!