£yr old dd not sleeping.Nightmare.Going on too long now...

[parker1313]

My ds who is 6 sleeps so well and never wakes us in the night.
My dd who is 3 is an absolute nightmare.
She cries at her door 4,5,6 sometimes more every night and has done since she's gone into a bed but more so since she was toilet trained.She wakes up once or twice needing a wee even though she has no more to drink aafter 5.30pm.
I really dont mind her waking up for a wee but then to keep getting out of bed is killing me.I would rather look after a new born!
I try to ignore her but she goes on forever & my ds has school &dh has work very early so I have to keep going to her even though she doesnt need anything.
She knows that Im goin to go to her.
It is half term from now & Iv said to my dh that we really need to get this sorted.
How do I do it?
Iv forgotten.
Do I keep going to her &say nothing or not go to her at all&just let her cry?

She shouldn't really need a wee - so it may just be habit. I'd be inclined to give her a potty in her room, and tell her she should use it herself and get back into bed without waking you, and see how that works.

My DS also wakes me a couple of times a night most nights, mainly saying he wants a "hug". I'm starting a sticker chart, with a star for each night he sleeps through, then with a treat for say 3 consecutive days, and will see how that works.

It's hard though, will be watching this to see what others suggest..

She does do a big wee though when she goes.
Then when she wakes after she makes up stuff she wants like diff cuddly toys,pyjamas on and off etc.

bump

Get a potty for her room, or tell her go to the toilet on her own - leave the bathroom light on all night if need be.

Make sure she has everything she needs in her room / in reach before she goes to bed - all her favourite teddies, books, a night light, pyjamas. Tell her if she needs something you expect her to get it herself. If she can't sleep tell her she can turn her light on and read/play quietly in her bed until she feels sleepy again.

You need to be strict - if she wakes you up for a hug or a toy say "no it's the middle of the night, time for sleeping. Go back to bed" in a firm voice, and go back to bed. Ignore her cries/shouts for a bit. If she continues for a while, go back in and repeat as above.

Sticker chart is a good idea too.

Thats better was thinking I was gettin ignored then!
She cant get out of her bedroom which is good as she used to be able to and on a few occassions have found her in the bathroom with loads of make up out.
She doesnt have a light that she can reach in her bedroom and loves sleeping(when she actually does!!) in the dark as she used to it.
Should i get a night light?

Why do you stop her drinks after 5.30? The bladder needs to be trained to last the night & the way to do this is not to limit drinks. If she wets, then she isn't ready to be out of nappies at night.

She maybe thirsty, but not know how to express it.

i wouldnt put up with the drama

i'd just stick a nappy on during wthe week and then sort the waking/toilet thing out gradually over weekends.

In terms of getting it sorted...buy a calender and some stickers.

Put the calender in her room.

Tell her that when she gets out of bed to go to the toilet she must go back to bed quickly & quietly. If she does that with little/no fuss she can have a sticker.

In the morning, if she does it, put a sticker on her calender so she can see how well she is doing. After x amount of stickers you can promise a treat of your choosing.

When she gets up, let her use the toilet, return her to bed & mention the sticker. If she continues to get up, take her back to bed but do not speak & have little/no eye contact. Keep doing as ness.

Hi there. I stopped dd drinking after half 5 because she is up even more asking for a wee.She asks for a wee even if she is wearing a pull up/nappy so I didnt see the point in her wearing one.Im not prepared to say to her "oh just do a wee in your nappy" when she is capable of using the toilet even if it is in the night.
My ds wasnt dry at night til he was 5.5 and we received advice to encourage/help him to become dry which included not drinking from 1hr and a half before he goes to bed hence also why I stop dd from drinking after that time too.
My ds cant go all night without weeing but he wakes up when he needs to go for a wee.I too cannot go the entire night without needing a wee.
I suppose everyones different.

Well in that case you need try do as I suggest, with the stickers. Fair enough that she needs to use the toilet, so retrain her in what you expect her to do after she has used the toilet.

Make take a few nights, but should work.