I've tried cc with 19 month old. Started off well but now she's taking off her nappy and wetting the bed and crying.

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I feel awful. We have previously co-slept and bf to sleep but I have decided enough is enough and started cc with dd.
We had success for the first few days but for the past two nights dd has been taking off her nappy and weeing in the bed. This makes her cry even more. Tonight I just rescued her and fed her to sleep in my bed but I want to get her to sleep independantly.

What can I do? I am going to convert her cotbed into a normal bed I think. I feel so

She is still quite young - it can be quite a shock to their system esp. after co-sleeping. I would give it a bit more time.

can you not stop one thing and then stop another?

say stopping the breastfeeding to sleep and then when she is used to that, get her in her own bed?

have you got the Sears Book?? Full of excellent ideas ... this is the american version but you can get it in the UK

I think perhaps you have done too much too soon. If you have previously co-slept and now she is in her own cotbed that is one change. Add in stopping bf to sleep and that is another. Could you try putting her in the cotbed, after bf, but staying in the room - gradual withdrawal technique? Elizabeth Pantley has some great sleep tips in No Cry Sleep Solution which I think would suit you and your dd.

Agree with others - take it a bit more slowly, and it'll be a more pleasant experience for both of you. She doesn't understand why this sudden change is happening, and it's hard for you too. Also recommend Pantley and No Cry Sleep Solution - I hate most parenting books, but like hers. We used techniques from this with dd, and it was fab. Takes longer than cc - say 2/3 weeks rather than 3 nights? - but is less painful, and when you look back feels like no time at all.

I feel like I have been such a bad mum. I think I will just try gradual withdrawal.

I think if I change her cot into a normal bed she will find it easier as she is used to my bed and can lie on her bed with her until she goes to sleep.

I find bedtimes so hard.

you haven't been a bad mum - just (i assume) a very sleep deprived one?

gradual withdrawal is very effective and gentle

Not bad mum at all! Gradual withdrawal is nice - explain what's going to happen, expect to be doing it for a while, and it'll likely not take too long. And bed idea sounds good, esp if you sell it as big girl bed, etc.